Mum , who I live with is now having two weeks respite care ....I really needed the break ...but it's not doing me any good or Mum ...mum is very unhappy there ...and I find I'm worrying more ..I called in today and found her in her nighty , which was inside out ...cold toast on the table ... apple juice I took in on Saturday still in the glass ....a lump of cake as hard as a rock by TV ...wasn't there Saturday .....the flannel hasn't been used since Tuesday when mum went in ...her clean clothes had been shoved between the draws and wall ....one sock in the bin ....pants were ones she had on Saturday ...not hers and not clean ...bed not made and it was 12.10 ...nearly lunch time ...I was so lucky as the carer mum has every morning called in to see her too so between us we got her washed and dressed and then we took her to lunch in the dinning room ...all this is £1,203 per week ...I spent ages looking around for somewhere I was happy with ....and being my first experience of a care home i was really quite shocked at all this ....I did go and speak to the manager and said I wasn't happy ...mum seemed to have refused any help ...but I did tell them she can't dress herself .....surely the staff shouldnt just leave her like this ......where is the care ? So no my respite hasn't helped me or mum at all !