Hi I care for my mum who has been diagnosed with vascular dementia. Unfortunately the doctor has said medication is not an option as they think the damage was caused by mini strokes. My mum lives on her own at the moment but I have noticed a decline so am waiting for a care assessment to be carried out. I think we were all in denial at the beginning and as she is very hard of hearing assumed that was the problem. I have really good days, my mum giggles a lot more than she did, we dance around the room (with no music), to really low days like today where I am in tears as it hits me what is in store for her. I also feel guilty,selfish, questioning should I move her in with me but also remember how adamant she was that if anything should happen to her she did not want to live with any of us as in her words we had our lives to live. Also it would be taking her away from the area and people she knows. I suppose I joined to learn from other peoples experiences and to also realise I'm not the only one going through this.