I've posted a few messages here and had really helpful replies and support so thought I would just say that Mum died on 26 July in her nursing home. She never really recovered from the broken arm she sustained when she had a mild seizure which was such bad luck. If she'd been lying in bed or something that aspect of it might not have happened. But it precipitated a general decline that culminated in first stopping eating and eventually drinking too.
I was with a mum when she passed and it was very peaceful. Her breathing gradually changed and then just stopped. A couple of days previously I'd had a long visit with her where she rubbed my arm and nodded at me which I will always treasure.
I did the tribute to Mum at her cremation service which I am so glad I did. I would say to anyone wondering if they should or can to do it. Write down what you want to say and ask the minister officiating to be ready to step in if you can't carry on. The other thing we did which people commented on was pt a load of photos of mum in a book and took it to the gathering afterwards. People enjoyed looking through them, told stories about the day the photo was taken etc
I think it will take a while to absorb it all. If mum had been given a moment of clarity I am sure she would have said she was ready to go but the world feels wrong without Mum in it. It feels like a second beravement really. I lost mum a couple of years ago in terms of her knowing me, being able to have a conversation, remember shared history, get her advice etc. now I have lost the Mum I loved holding hands with, making a cup of tea for just as she liked it etc
But she was special - she bought my sister and I up alone and made us who were are against he odds in many ways - so my uppermost thought has to be how very blessed I have been.
I was with a mum when she passed and it was very peaceful. Her breathing gradually changed and then just stopped. A couple of days previously I'd had a long visit with her where she rubbed my arm and nodded at me which I will always treasure.
I did the tribute to Mum at her cremation service which I am so glad I did. I would say to anyone wondering if they should or can to do it. Write down what you want to say and ask the minister officiating to be ready to step in if you can't carry on. The other thing we did which people commented on was pt a load of photos of mum in a book and took it to the gathering afterwards. People enjoyed looking through them, told stories about the day the photo was taken etc
I think it will take a while to absorb it all. If mum had been given a moment of clarity I am sure she would have said she was ready to go but the world feels wrong without Mum in it. It feels like a second beravement really. I lost mum a couple of years ago in terms of her knowing me, being able to have a conversation, remember shared history, get her advice etc. now I have lost the Mum I loved holding hands with, making a cup of tea for just as she liked it etc
But she was special - she bought my sister and I up alone and made us who were are against he odds in many ways - so my uppermost thought has to be how very blessed I have been.