Mum has gone and I miss her

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by dianemb, Sep 2, 2006.

  1. dianemb

    dianemb Registered User

    Aug 17, 2006
    Hi to everyone and thanks to all of you for your support.

    After 14 days without fluids Mum finally feel asleep yesterday morning (1st Sept at 6.25am). She went peacefully just taking one last short breath.
    I miss her more than words can say and I feel so numb

    i was not with her but my Dad and my brother were. I had left the hospital at 3am and was called back at 6am. I arrived at 6.45am but she had already gone. Thankfully my Dad was holding her and I had said my goodbyes many many times.

    She may not be buried until 15th Sept which is hard but I am sure we will all get by until then. (Dad wanted a specific minister and church etc so tying it all together, as he wanted, meant a longer wait)

    Thanks again to all of you for your help and support. I will stay in touch and wish any of you that have been through this or are going through this my heartfelt wishes because I now know this pain is unbearable.

    Love to all all from both me,Diane and my Mum (Rita) God Bless her xxxxxxxxxx
  2. Lila13

    Lila13 Registered User

    Feb 24, 2006
    I'm sorry about your mother. Glad it was peaceful at least. It has been such a strain for you these last days.

  3. Kathleen

    Kathleen Registered User

    Mar 12, 2005
    West Sussex

    My heartfelt sympathy to you and your Dad, I am glad Mum is now at peace.

    It is important that your Dad has the funeral he wants for her, my Dad's took a lot of planning, but it was worth the extra effort to get the one he deserved.

    Take care of yourself and your Dad.

  4. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    NW England
    Dear Diane

    Your mum has shown amazing strength to fight so hard and so long - and so too have you in all that you have done for her.

    I realise there is little to say to make the pain any more bearable just now, but just know that people are here for you .....

    My love and prayers are with you and all the family ...

    Love, Karen, x
  5. jenniferpa

    jenniferpa Volunteer Moderator

    Jun 27, 2006
    Diane I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know that words can help, but we are thinking of you and your family.

  6. Helena

    Helena Registered User

    May 24, 2006

    Sorry about your loss and that you were not there at the end after your endless devotion

    At least now she is spared more suffering
  7. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    Sincere condolences Diane. At least your Dad must be comforted that he was there at the end. You did more than your share and must hold on to that.
    Your mother must have been a very strong woman to go so long without fluids. We`ll never know what goes on in the non-communicative mind of AD/VD sufferers but it`s nice to think they have the final say.

    Take care. Grannie G
  8. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    So sorry for your loss and your pain Diane, but Mum is at peace now. Feel her presence and her love, as she has felt yours over these final days. I think it is so important to try and make the funeral 'just right' - it is such an important day.
    Take time to grieve. We are here when you feel ready to post.
    Love Helen
  9. BillieJay

    BillieJay Registered User

    Aug 31, 2006
    Diane, I hope that you and your family can find strength and peace in the next few days.
    Thinking of you all,
  10. Áine

    Áine Registered User

    Sorry to hear of your loss Diane. It's been an exhausting and painful 14 days. Give yourself time and take care of yourself.


  11. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    Birmingham Hades
    sorry to hear your sad news.
    Look after Dad,he needs you more than ever now.
    Kind thoughts
  12. Gromit

    Gromit Registered User

    Apr 3, 2006
    Very sorry about your loss.
    Take good care of yourself and your Dad.
    Thinking of you.

  13. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    Dear Diane
    I was so sorry to hear your news
    Sending you and your dad my love
  14. maria29al

    maria29al Registered User

    Mar 15, 2006
    I am sorry to hear your sad news.

    We took time with Dads funeral and I am so glad that we did.

    Many hugs,

  15. carol

    carol Registered User

    Jun 24, 2004
    God Bless, I am so sorry. Thinking of you and your family at this sad time.

  16. mojofilter

    mojofilter Registered User

    May 10, 2006
    So sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

  17. Tina

    Tina Registered User

    May 19, 2006
    so sorry

    I'm so so sorry to hear your Mum's passed on. You've been so strong in the last fortnight, and I'm sure your presence was always a great comfort and helped her on her journey. She was also very strong to have hung on to life for as long as she did. I know there is overwhelming sadness and a huge feeling of loss, but may you find comfort in happy memories, support from family and friends and the thought that your mum is now at peace.
    Take some time for yourself now, to remember, to grieve, and to look after yourself.
    With sincere sympathy to you and yours,
  18. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    Sorry to read read about your mother passing away .

    Love from Margaret (((HUGS)))
  19. Kriss

    Kriss Registered User

    May 20, 2004
    In your sadness DIane hold her tight in your heart. She will always be with you.

  20. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    Toronto, Canada
    So sorry to hear of your loss. However much we think we are prepared, we never seem to be. My thoughts are with you.

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