Hi,
This isn't my first post, unfortunately, but I usually post in the early stage section.
As I know lots of us do on here, this is really getting things off my chest and hoping once its written down it will make more sense to me too!
My mum (72 yo) has had memory problems for a while now and in hindsight (what a wonderful thing), it has been probably 3 years. It took a turn for the worst last November when she had stroke. She had a live in carer when she first came home, but her recovery was really good and in no time her and my dad (84 yo) were able to deal with things.
She was having regular checks and although I could see some deterioration in her memory, physically she was doing well.
Until two weeks ago.
She had a fit/convulsion/seizure, which in turn caused a small bleed, or quite possibly the other way round! No one can explain it. They discharged her after 2 days, back into my dads care. Her discharge papers said that there was a high level of alcohol in her blood and this is what caused the convulsion/fit/seizure.
We arranged a pop in carer, which wasn't enough.
I finally talked my dad into her going into respite.
It turns out that my mum started drinking when she got over the initial stroke, my dad still won't tell my how much. So she has been a "functioning" alcoholic?
Obviously she is now not drinking. She has been in the home for 9 days and to be honest, I don't see a huge difference.
I thought this would get her back on her feet, she is having physio every day.
She is still having hallucinations, which the care manager puts down to the alcohol withdrawal. When i said she was having them before she said that would be the alcohol!
She has had repeated UTI's (probably the alcohol)!
We have booked her in until 11/09, hoping that by then we will see more of a recovery, or am I just hoping for something that ain't gonna happen!?
Is this it? I keep asking my dad what he feels he can cope with at home and he just shakes his head. He has lost so much weight with worry and now I am concerned about him!
I feel like just sitting in a corner and ignoring it all but i know I can't do that and I know there are no quick fix/fast recovery plans, I just wanted someone else to listen. My poor husband , I am now getting snappy and jumpy about everything.
Phew, that was hard, but cathartic, thank you to everyone who reads this and thoughts to everyone of you who is going through this too.
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This isn't my first post, unfortunately, but I usually post in the early stage section.
As I know lots of us do on here, this is really getting things off my chest and hoping once its written down it will make more sense to me too!
My mum (72 yo) has had memory problems for a while now and in hindsight (what a wonderful thing), it has been probably 3 years. It took a turn for the worst last November when she had stroke. She had a live in carer when she first came home, but her recovery was really good and in no time her and my dad (84 yo) were able to deal with things.
She was having regular checks and although I could see some deterioration in her memory, physically she was doing well.
Until two weeks ago.
She had a fit/convulsion/seizure, which in turn caused a small bleed, or quite possibly the other way round! No one can explain it. They discharged her after 2 days, back into my dads care. Her discharge papers said that there was a high level of alcohol in her blood and this is what caused the convulsion/fit/seizure.
We arranged a pop in carer, which wasn't enough.
I finally talked my dad into her going into respite.
It turns out that my mum started drinking when she got over the initial stroke, my dad still won't tell my how much. So she has been a "functioning" alcoholic?
Obviously she is now not drinking. She has been in the home for 9 days and to be honest, I don't see a huge difference.
I thought this would get her back on her feet, she is having physio every day.
She is still having hallucinations, which the care manager puts down to the alcohol withdrawal. When i said she was having them before she said that would be the alcohol!
She has had repeated UTI's (probably the alcohol)!
We have booked her in until 11/09, hoping that by then we will see more of a recovery, or am I just hoping for something that ain't gonna happen!?
Is this it? I keep asking my dad what he feels he can cope with at home and he just shakes his head. He has lost so much weight with worry and now I am concerned about him!
I feel like just sitting in a corner and ignoring it all but i know I can't do that and I know there are no quick fix/fast recovery plans, I just wanted someone else to listen. My poor husband , I am now getting snappy and jumpy about everything.
Phew, that was hard, but cathartic, thank you to everyone who reads this and thoughts to everyone of you who is going through this too.
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