Hi my mums dementia seems to have deteriorated in the last month or so and I'm wondering what I can do about it. She has been in a nursing home since last sept and has become verbally aggressive to the carers (and me) and threatens to hit carers, swears at them when they attempt any personal care or give her food or drink. If I talk to her about it she denies it "I wouldn't do that to the girls" it's become so bad the home has set up a behaviour chart to look for triggers and what might help in dealing with.
My mum has never been like this, she always used to go out of her way to be pleasant to carers and was well liked by all who came into contact with her
In addition to dementia my mum has complex needs, she is blind with age related macular degeneration, deaf, immobile, doubly incontinent and has chronic back and knee pain. As part of her dementia she has long two way conversation with all my relatives - alive and dead. E.g. Is that you Mary? Yes it's me nell, how are you Mary, etc etc its like she's in a parallel world and if you speak to her she seems confused, as if you're intruding.
I've spoken to the nurse about my mums aggressive behaviour and suggested that if she refuses to comply with eating, drinking and personal care they shouldn't push her as I wonder if it's her way of giving up on life. Also it's very distressing for the carers to be verbally abused swearing, called names.
I'm not sure what I can do? Should I speak to mums doctor or the home manager about getting a review set up in view of her recent worsening state? It's very distressing for us and I worry the home will refuse to look after my mum.
My mum has never been like this, she always used to go out of her way to be pleasant to carers and was well liked by all who came into contact with her
In addition to dementia my mum has complex needs, she is blind with age related macular degeneration, deaf, immobile, doubly incontinent and has chronic back and knee pain. As part of her dementia she has long two way conversation with all my relatives - alive and dead. E.g. Is that you Mary? Yes it's me nell, how are you Mary, etc etc its like she's in a parallel world and if you speak to her she seems confused, as if you're intruding.
I've spoken to the nurse about my mums aggressive behaviour and suggested that if she refuses to comply with eating, drinking and personal care they shouldn't push her as I wonder if it's her way of giving up on life. Also it's very distressing for the carers to be verbally abused swearing, called names.
I'm not sure what I can do? Should I speak to mums doctor or the home manager about getting a review set up in view of her recent worsening state? It's very distressing for us and I worry the home will refuse to look after my mum.
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