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Mum has badly fractured her right hip

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by Dibs, Oct 8, 2015.

  1. Dibs

    Dibs Registered User

    Jun 19, 2009
    1,902
    Hampshire
    My lovely mum had a fall at her care home early evening and has badly fractured her right hip. She is in our local hospital. I'm so upset. I know the operation will have a huge risk factor. She is 86 and I feel this is all too much for her to have to deal with.
    I had a call yesterday tea time to say she had fallen but was ok but today it is so much worse.:(
     
  2. poster

    poster Registered User

    Dec 28, 2011
    190
    Sorry to hear this. Is there any way you can go and see your mum?
     
  3. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,232
    Female
    The Sweet North
    Your poor mum. I hope she is as comfortable as possible for now, and that the operation goes well. Do try to get some sleep yourself so that you will be able to support and be there for her during her recovery.
    Thinking of you.
     
  4. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
    10,217
    Merseyside
    I'm so sorry Dibs. Hope she's pain free & that the operation goes well.
     
  5. Dibs

    Dibs Registered User

    Jun 19, 2009
    1,902
    Hampshire
    Thank you.
    I haven't slept very well. I arrived at the hospital at the same time as mum and stayed with her until she went upto the ward. It is so difficult as she cannot take instruction I went with her to X-Ray department and was able to stay with her.
    A&E were very good with mum I only hope that continues throughout her stay. xx
     
  6. turbo

    turbo Registered User

    Aug 1, 2007
    3,851
    Hello Dibs, I'm so sorry. Your poor mum. It sounds as if your mum is being well looked but I can imagine how worried you are.
     
  7. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,296
    SW London
    I am so sorry - what a worry for you. However just wanted to say that my mother broke a hip at over 90 and did recover well and quite quickly, so it can happen. Hospital staff were very good with her, too, and her dementia was pretty bad by then. Do hope you will find the same.
     
  8. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,534
    North East England
    Oh Dibs, I'm so sorry to hear this, no wonder you're so upset. Keeping everything crossed for your mum and you, and sending love and big hugs xxx
     
  9. 2jays

    2jays Registered User

    Jun 4, 2010
    11,604
    West Midlands
    Oh Dibs :(

    Mum broke her leg, not her hip, but it was a bad break and needed pinning, so I can totally understand your worries xxxx

    Mum didn't thrive in hospital, but once back at her care home with their wonderful TLC she is back walking and doing her usual nightly pacing with a Zimmer frame

    A very stressful time for you all. Holding your hand xxxxxx



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  10. ellejay

    ellejay Registered User

    Jan 28, 2011
    4,014
    Essex
    Hope your mum is being kept comfortable Dibs. Thinking of you all.

    Lin x
     
  11. grove

    grove Registered User

    Aug 24, 2010
    7,724
    North Yorkshire
    Hello


    Hello Dibs , so sorry too read this about your poor Mum & poor you & can understand how upset you are feeling Pleased tho you arrived at the same time as the ambulance etc & A & E were very good with your Mum & sending positive vibes the good care continues throughout your Mum's stay > Do you know if it is a Butterfly Scheme Hospital ? Hope it is


    Thinking of you both


    Love & Hugs

    Grove x x
     
  12. Dibs

    Dibs Registered User

    Jun 19, 2009
    1,902
    Hampshire
    I spent all day with mum yesterday. She slept most of the time which was good. She is attached to an IV drip which I understand is because she is diabetic. They hope to operate today as they ran out of time due to the surgeon doing a complex operation.
    I am dreading mum having this operation i just feel that this is all too much for her. They have a DNR in place which I agree with as it wouldn't be fair on mum to try and resuscitate her should something go wrong. I am absolutely heartbroken my mum has to go through this. I feel that this operation is going to change things for mum. xx
     
  13. underwood

    underwood Registered User

    Oct 9, 2015
    48
    Nottingham
    Good luck Dibs

    Hope everything goes well for your mother.
     
  14. turbo

    turbo Registered User

    Aug 1, 2007
    3,851
    Hello Dibs, I can understand how frightened you are about your mum's surgery. Thinking of you and your mum.
     
  15. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,594
    Female
    Dundee
    I'm sorry I missed your original post. I hope your mum is soon back in her care home and responds after her operation. Thinking of you both.
     
  16. Dazmum

    Dazmum Registered User

    Oh Dibs I'm so sorry to hear that your mum has broken her hip. I do hope that the operation goes well today, and can fully understand your worries for her, bless her. I'll be thinking of you both today, love and hugs, Jennie xxxx
     
  17. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,534
    North East England
    Keeping everything crossed for your mum today Dibs. I hope the operation goes well and that your mum recovers quickly, and that none of your fears are realised. Big hugs xx
     
  18. ellejay

    ellejay Registered User

    Jan 28, 2011
    4,014
    Essex
    Hope all is well, Dibs, thinking of you all xxx

    Lin x
     
  19. geum123

    geum123 Registered User

    May 20, 2009
    4,604
    Oh Dibs,
    I've only just seen your post.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum.
    You must be besides yourself with worry.
    I hope the hospital have managed to keep her comfortable and pain free.
    Keeping you all in my thoughts today. xxxxxxx
     
  20. Dibs

    Dibs Registered User

    Jun 19, 2009
    1,902
    Hampshire
    Mum has had her operation it went well but she lost some blood afterwards due to low blood count. When I arrived she was sleepy but gave me a lovely smile and kiss and was more responsive than I thought she would be.:) She had a milkshake and cake and then went back to sleep.
    I'm now going to take one day at a time and not think too far ahead.
    So far I'm pleased with the care she is receiving they do seem to be very dementia aware which is good but I shall be watching closely as my mum is very precious to me.
    Going to try and relax now and have something to eat as when I'm stressed I can't face food. xx
     

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