Hi
It's been a while since I have been on-line. I used to post regularly but life got a bit crazy and I stopped and just got on with things.
My mum is 57 with AD, she was diagnosed about 3 years ago but started to decline about 8 years ago (although we didnt know what was wrong). Mum and dad are now in warden assisted housing (2 years now). Quick summary of mum - she is now unable to pick clothes and dress herself, needs to be fed, cannot cook or clean, struggles visually, no interest in anything, wanders inside and outside the house, speech is limited, seeing things that are not there, lashing out at us now (having to stop her hurting us). She has moments where she aware, frustrated and upset and says frequently she 'just wants to die' or she 'wants to kill herself.'
Last week things got really bad and dad didn't know what to do. He calle dme late and night and she was trying to throw things and very physical with him and he had to restrain her. Next morning we had the doctor and mental health officer out and they sectioned her. She is now detained in hospita until they can fully assess her and determine what we do next. Social work just talk about putting her into a home and the hospital say she is at risk to herself and others and needs 24 hour care. We are in limbo at the moment waiting on assessments etc and it feels like we are the only ones wanting mum to return home. I appreciate we now need a different package of care i.e. we currently only have 4 days x 1 hour in the morning. Things rapidly changed over the past 2 weeks so I know our needs are different now but they just seem to say mum is a special case (because of her age) andnot giving us many options.
Anyone else been here before?
It's been a while since I have been on-line. I used to post regularly but life got a bit crazy and I stopped and just got on with things.
My mum is 57 with AD, she was diagnosed about 3 years ago but started to decline about 8 years ago (although we didnt know what was wrong). Mum and dad are now in warden assisted housing (2 years now). Quick summary of mum - she is now unable to pick clothes and dress herself, needs to be fed, cannot cook or clean, struggles visually, no interest in anything, wanders inside and outside the house, speech is limited, seeing things that are not there, lashing out at us now (having to stop her hurting us). She has moments where she aware, frustrated and upset and says frequently she 'just wants to die' or she 'wants to kill herself.'
Last week things got really bad and dad didn't know what to do. He calle dme late and night and she was trying to throw things and very physical with him and he had to restrain her. Next morning we had the doctor and mental health officer out and they sectioned her. She is now detained in hospita until they can fully assess her and determine what we do next. Social work just talk about putting her into a home and the hospital say she is at risk to herself and others and needs 24 hour care. We are in limbo at the moment waiting on assessments etc and it feels like we are the only ones wanting mum to return home. I appreciate we now need a different package of care i.e. we currently only have 4 days x 1 hour in the morning. Things rapidly changed over the past 2 weeks so I know our needs are different now but they just seem to say mum is a special case (because of her age) andnot giving us many options.
Anyone else been here before?