Mum was always very much against a care home, but when the time came and she moved there from hospital she was well looked after. She was clean, ate well (gained a lot of the weight she had lost at home) and joined in activities (she loves music) and had company. Her quality of life was much improved. It took her about 6 months to stop saying that she'd rather live with me or near me (she had actually moved across country to a home near me) but she was easy to distract and change the subject. The time I spent with her was quality too - visiting the park, shopping, coffee and cake as opposed to a flying visit and a week full of washing and cleaning and dealing with SS etc. Thinking of you - Its so stressful, but a care home move can have a silver lining.