Hi I have POA on my mum's finances, so her bank account is in my name i pay the bills and manage all her finances - i live about 45 miles away and my brother lives 2 minutes walk away. My mum has alzheimers and vascular dementia as well as being registered blind with age related macular degeneration, she is in sheltered housing with full time on site carers and attends the day centre 3 days a week which she loves, and wins all the quizzes. She is quite feisty and fairly stable with her aricept medication. Sometimes she gets what i call a gloomy phase but usually it lifts after a few days and she's back to herself. Recently i have had phone calls from her saying she can't access her bank account and she wants to go and buy things (she can't get about any more with her sight and knee problems) when i explain that her bank acc is in my name as i pay her bills and buy her clothes etc. My brother and i keep money in a locked cashbox for her and keep about £30 in her purse for everyday spending. She keeps shouting down the phone at me saying she can manage her finances and doesn't need me to do this for her, and stop treating her like a child etc, etc My brother and i usually manage to calm her and she's fine about it - until the next time - she starts thinking about it all or remembers it - i call these phases her bee in her bonnet - sometimes she keeps going on about somebody she's taken a dislike to, sometimes its something she heard or misheard - they last for a week or more and then go and usually i manage to distract her by talking about something else. This one is very difficult to handle as she forgets whats been said and keeps starting this off again. This morning at 8 30 she was on the phone ranting and raving at me and ended up putting the phone down on me saying she was very disappointed in her children (we are in our 50's) for doing this to her. She rang later on and i said "mum, i'm not going to keep answering the phone to you if you keep shouting at me, and everything i and my brother do for you is to help you" She was like a child promising to buy me presents etc I don't want presents I just don't know what to do when she's like this - i've told the sheltered housing manager to keep an eye on her and try to involve her in things more. Is this a blip on her behaviour and she will stabilise again or is it a decline - i've noticed a few little incidents like delusions recently too.