hi ive just been reading some threads and i am so sorry for anyone who has or is going through this and i now find myself in the same situation- my dad died in may- mums alzheimers got worse and after a hosp admission with pneumonia mum went into a nursing home- she cant walk, doubly incontinent, hardly talks etc and looks skeletal only weigh 35kg and its horrible seeing my mum suffering with this-she is a wonderfuyl mpther and person- mum has been given weeks if not days and is now end of life- mum had her chc check on 11th aug and was declined chc- the decision was made as they said by documented evidence and the opinion of the care home manager along with my own .what i find difficult is they could make this decision without the assessor or social worker seeing my mum, yet when decisions have to be made for my mums end of life they are asking me about my mums medical history, what i think is happening, how they should move forward etc - i am happy to give this information and i know i do know my mum better than they but do they ever read a patients medical records? mum has had some excellent care in hosp but im afraid my confidence in will my mum receive the best possible end of life care is worrying me- i feel isolated and trying my best in all situations- the home have assured me they can look after mum, does anybody else feel like this and feel that because a person is elderly and have no chance of recovery that some things are sidestepped? i am visiting mum every day and i have to keep my eye on things although in all honesty i feel im in a fog and acting on intuition -sorry such a long thread xx