hi, ive just come across this forum and have read a few posts. there is obviously a lot of knowledge and experience here so I would be grateful for any thoughts on my concerns.
mum has always been a bit forgetful but since my dad died last april things have got much worse and the last few weeks have been very worrying.
she is becoming very forgetful. often phoning me several (10) times within half an hour about the same thing with no idea that she has already spoken to me. at first I would laugh and tell her we have just spoken but now I act as if it is the first phone call. I take her for a trip out and by the time we return home she doesn't know where she has been. she also tells the same stories to my partner from 60 years ago with no idea that she has already told him. this can be several times on the same visit, getting out photos we have seen many times. Again we now act as if we hadn't already seen them but I don't know if this is the right thing to do.
yesterday I made her cry. I found she was carrying over £1000 in her handbag, which she frequently misplaces. I tried to tell her it wasn't a good idea and tried to take it from her. in the end I gave up and when she wasn't looking removed some of it for safe keeping. later in the day we went shopping and the bill came to £40 and she thought she didn't have any money on her. I had to insist that she looked in her bag, where she found a lot of money. no idea how much she was carrying. my sister and I have recently sorted out power of attourney but I want her to be independent as long as possible.
We talked her into going to the doctors last year who referred her to a phsyciatric specialist. she passed the tests with flying colours. she knew who the primeminister was, she knew what month it was etc. the only thing she couldn't do was remember a word that she was told to remember at the beginning of the session. im sure she still knows the first lot of info but it is like her short term recall is switched off.
Amazingly she still drives.. after 60 years it is second nature to her but she forgets where she is going before she gets there. I worry she will do something daft like just stop in busy traffic to work out where she is.
she is aware that she is becoming very forgetful and constantly says 'ive lost my marbles' 'I wasn't always like this', though she flatly refuses to go to the doc, I guess she is worried what she may hear. she often gets upset saying I will be putting her in a home (she will live with me before it comes to that)
I realize this is a similar scenario to others I have been reading about here but I would be very grateful for any thoughts on her behaviour and more importantly how I should deal with it to help her stay positive and independent
sorry for such a long first post but I needed to get it out.
mum has always been a bit forgetful but since my dad died last april things have got much worse and the last few weeks have been very worrying.
she is becoming very forgetful. often phoning me several (10) times within half an hour about the same thing with no idea that she has already spoken to me. at first I would laugh and tell her we have just spoken but now I act as if it is the first phone call. I take her for a trip out and by the time we return home she doesn't know where she has been. she also tells the same stories to my partner from 60 years ago with no idea that she has already told him. this can be several times on the same visit, getting out photos we have seen many times. Again we now act as if we hadn't already seen them but I don't know if this is the right thing to do.
yesterday I made her cry. I found she was carrying over £1000 in her handbag, which she frequently misplaces. I tried to tell her it wasn't a good idea and tried to take it from her. in the end I gave up and when she wasn't looking removed some of it for safe keeping. later in the day we went shopping and the bill came to £40 and she thought she didn't have any money on her. I had to insist that she looked in her bag, where she found a lot of money. no idea how much she was carrying. my sister and I have recently sorted out power of attourney but I want her to be independent as long as possible.
We talked her into going to the doctors last year who referred her to a phsyciatric specialist. she passed the tests with flying colours. she knew who the primeminister was, she knew what month it was etc. the only thing she couldn't do was remember a word that she was told to remember at the beginning of the session. im sure she still knows the first lot of info but it is like her short term recall is switched off.
Amazingly she still drives.. after 60 years it is second nature to her but she forgets where she is going before she gets there. I worry she will do something daft like just stop in busy traffic to work out where she is.
she is aware that she is becoming very forgetful and constantly says 'ive lost my marbles' 'I wasn't always like this', though she flatly refuses to go to the doc, I guess she is worried what she may hear. she often gets upset saying I will be putting her in a home (she will live with me before it comes to that)
I realize this is a similar scenario to others I have been reading about here but I would be very grateful for any thoughts on her behaviour and more importantly how I should deal with it to help her stay positive and independent
sorry for such a long first post but I needed to get it out.