Just some advice please?
My mum (aged 94) lives on her own with no outside help but lives next door to me.
Mum's GP says that she has capacity and Social Care have visited.
My sibling lives miles away and I run a business which takes up most of my time.Mum's memory is fast deteriorating but she is able to keep herself clean, feed herself and so on. My sibling and me do what we can to look after her but she does spend days and days on her own. She has refused all outside help.
I havn't seen my sibling since Christmas (he is tied up with his new house) and there has been some concerns about money raised by Mum which I'll sort out when we are altogether.
I saw mum yesterday to get a list for her shopping. Mum had fallen over the telephone wire to get to the door to see me. The phone isn't working anyway so if there is anything wrong she can't call anyone until it's fixed. My sibling is having trouble contacting her to arrange for an engineer to come.
Mum had a fall earlier this year (fell over a carpet) and grazed her elbow and bruises up her arm.
Mum's home is in a state with empty plastic bottles all over the place, the carpets hadn't been hoovered for days. Her dishwasher is not working so her cups are all stained and her washing machine has mold growing at the door. It's so sad it's come to this.
Mum's ankles are still swollen but I was able to sort out a painful corn on her toe (she refuses to go or have a chiropodist visit her). I managed to persuade her to get rid of one of her carpets (she has off-cuts at the entrances to protect the carpet) which was rucked up.
So you can imagine the scene when I arrived...phone on the floor with wire trailing, plastic bottles everywhere, place desperate for a tidy up and not much food in the fridge.
Mum does have delusions now about all sorts of things - going into town, visiting my brother...
I have organised a food delivery for Mum.
I had a call from my sibling today to say that Mum had been scammed by a man who wanted to do some work on her garden for £150.00 and he wanted me to 'hover around' to see if this person turns up. I am out all day tomorrow and can't help out.
We had a discussion about Mum in general (it's a circular argument - we've talked many times about mum's situation) with me explaining to him about the state of mum's home, a need for a new washing machine, dishwasher, no food, broken phone but all he would say is that the GP has diagnosed capacity so there is nothing we can do.
I've done loads of research and seem to remember that once an elderly person has been victim to a visitor trying to take money that this trigger's more involvement by social care and/or GP or am I wrong?
It is very hard to see Mum the way she is and it seems to affect me more than my sibling. In fact he laughed when I told him that Mum had put some of the plastic bottles in a shopping bag behind a door...I just felt sorry for mum.
Mum does keep herself clean so that's not the problem it's the fact that she is incredibly vulnerable, living in squalor.
Is this enough to speak to Social care again?
My mum (aged 94) lives on her own with no outside help but lives next door to me.
Mum's GP says that she has capacity and Social Care have visited.
My sibling lives miles away and I run a business which takes up most of my time.Mum's memory is fast deteriorating but she is able to keep herself clean, feed herself and so on. My sibling and me do what we can to look after her but she does spend days and days on her own. She has refused all outside help.
I havn't seen my sibling since Christmas (he is tied up with his new house) and there has been some concerns about money raised by Mum which I'll sort out when we are altogether.
I saw mum yesterday to get a list for her shopping. Mum had fallen over the telephone wire to get to the door to see me. The phone isn't working anyway so if there is anything wrong she can't call anyone until it's fixed. My sibling is having trouble contacting her to arrange for an engineer to come.
Mum had a fall earlier this year (fell over a carpet) and grazed her elbow and bruises up her arm.
Mum's home is in a state with empty plastic bottles all over the place, the carpets hadn't been hoovered for days. Her dishwasher is not working so her cups are all stained and her washing machine has mold growing at the door. It's so sad it's come to this.
Mum's ankles are still swollen but I was able to sort out a painful corn on her toe (she refuses to go or have a chiropodist visit her). I managed to persuade her to get rid of one of her carpets (she has off-cuts at the entrances to protect the carpet) which was rucked up.
So you can imagine the scene when I arrived...phone on the floor with wire trailing, plastic bottles everywhere, place desperate for a tidy up and not much food in the fridge.
Mum does have delusions now about all sorts of things - going into town, visiting my brother...
I have organised a food delivery for Mum.
I had a call from my sibling today to say that Mum had been scammed by a man who wanted to do some work on her garden for £150.00 and he wanted me to 'hover around' to see if this person turns up. I am out all day tomorrow and can't help out.
We had a discussion about Mum in general (it's a circular argument - we've talked many times about mum's situation) with me explaining to him about the state of mum's home, a need for a new washing machine, dishwasher, no food, broken phone but all he would say is that the GP has diagnosed capacity so there is nothing we can do.
I've done loads of research and seem to remember that once an elderly person has been victim to a visitor trying to take money that this trigger's more involvement by social care and/or GP or am I wrong?
It is very hard to see Mum the way she is and it seems to affect me more than my sibling. In fact he laughed when I told him that Mum had put some of the plastic bottles in a shopping bag behind a door...I just felt sorry for mum.
Mum does keep herself clean so that's not the problem it's the fact that she is incredibly vulnerable, living in squalor.
Is this enough to speak to Social care again?
