Mum has been in a care home for 4 weeks now and it is very difficult to go to see her. She is begging to come home and saying very hurtful relevant things that we know is the dementia talking, but still very painful to hear. Dad is now on his own at home. He has been very unwell with heart failure but is now constantly saying he wants her home. We have tried this twice before and both attempts ended in failure. I am trying to cope with mum and her distress, dad and his guilt and refusal to accept mums situation as well as my own grief and guilt. Help!!!