What an afternoon! We met with the Care Manager and went through the assessment until Mum basically vomited over her and asked her to leave?! It was such hard going, we only had a review in December (before the hospital admission and her coming to stay with us), but now we have to start again from scratch. It’s just so hard deciding what to do for the best.
She’s still obviously not safe to be left on her own at her flat, but would we/she get the same level of care/funding if she’s living with us? She has no assets lives in a council flat (sheltered accommodation), but we own our place (though we have no savings). The facilities at the flat are better, ie walk in shower/wet room, whereas here she’s only able to have a strip wash. If she moved here would she lose her flat? I just don’t know what to do for the best.
I could see the care manager’s brain turning over the information, and the risk that Mum would be in if she moved back to the flat on her own. She mentioned ‘the next step’ which I’m sure would residential care. I know that time will come, but not yet, not while we can be there for her and she knows us (most of the time).
The other option, which we’ve looked at is me moving into her flat with her, which Hubby suggests, but I think that would mean our marriage would be all but non-existent! Why is this so difficult? What should I do?
P x
She’s still obviously not safe to be left on her own at her flat, but would we/she get the same level of care/funding if she’s living with us? She has no assets lives in a council flat (sheltered accommodation), but we own our place (though we have no savings). The facilities at the flat are better, ie walk in shower/wet room, whereas here she’s only able to have a strip wash. If she moved here would she lose her flat? I just don’t know what to do for the best.
I could see the care manager’s brain turning over the information, and the risk that Mum would be in if she moved back to the flat on her own. She mentioned ‘the next step’ which I’m sure would residential care. I know that time will come, but not yet, not while we can be there for her and she knows us (most of the time).
The other option, which we’ve looked at is me moving into her flat with her, which Hubby suggests, but I think that would mean our marriage would be all but non-existent! Why is this so difficult? What should I do?
P x