Hi All
Mum and Dad had to have permanent care, after Dad was admitted, to hospital with brachicardyia (sp) approx 3 months ago
Although things in the care home, haven't been perfect, (Mum can be very difficult) I was thinking teething troubles?? Maybe the carers will become familiar with them and they will get to know the carers.
This hasn't happened.
The phychiatrist phoned me Monday and said the care home was struggling to manage them, so therefore he was, with my permission changing Mum's meds to resiparadone (sp) which has been reported as causing strokes.
I agreed, hobson's choice?
On Wednesday, when I visited, Mum was greatly agitated, so I asked the managers, has the meds been changed?
They knew nothing about it, but confirmed,, they were struggling to manage them and were thinking that the dementia unit in the complex would be the
the best option.
They told me Dad was hitting Mum, as well as the carers.
I was devastated. My Dad was always a gentleman. In his world, women and children had to be protected.
NO WAY WOULD HE EVER, IN HIS RIGHT MIND, HIT ANY WOMAN, NEVER MIND MY MUM.
Sometimes in recent years we have wondered, with Mum having dementia and being so very hard work, how Dad had the patience to tolerate Mum, given his condition. Maybe our fears are being realised now.
The care home said they couldn't get Mum and Dad to take their Meds. But I am wondering if a little more time spent with them, in calmly persuading them would make everyone's life easier and delay the admission to the dementia care unit.
I am worried that if they refuse to take the medication now prescibed and no one makes a great effort to deliver it, how then is any new meds going to work?
Sorry for the long rambling post, but I was in floods of tears as I drove home on Wednesday and now, don't know what to do for the best.
Don't know where to go from here, Mum has a phobia about lifts. The demensia unit, although having it's own lounge and dining room is on the first floor, but if we want to take them out, it would have to be the stairs, but could Dad manage?
I am thinking of looking for a care home with a dementia unit on the ground floor.
At the moment my mind is in bits, because, I thought that they were OK for quite some time to come, but I have had a sharp wake up call
Anyone any suggestions, as in how to get the carers in the present home to take time to deliver meds, or positive experiences of dementia units
Any advice would be gratefully received
Thanks
Alfjess
Mum and Dad had to have permanent care, after Dad was admitted, to hospital with brachicardyia (sp) approx 3 months ago
Although things in the care home, haven't been perfect, (Mum can be very difficult) I was thinking teething troubles?? Maybe the carers will become familiar with them and they will get to know the carers.
This hasn't happened.
The phychiatrist phoned me Monday and said the care home was struggling to manage them, so therefore he was, with my permission changing Mum's meds to resiparadone (sp) which has been reported as causing strokes.
I agreed, hobson's choice?
On Wednesday, when I visited, Mum was greatly agitated, so I asked the managers, has the meds been changed?
They knew nothing about it, but confirmed,, they were struggling to manage them and were thinking that the dementia unit in the complex would be the
the best option.
They told me Dad was hitting Mum, as well as the carers.
I was devastated. My Dad was always a gentleman. In his world, women and children had to be protected.
NO WAY WOULD HE EVER, IN HIS RIGHT MIND, HIT ANY WOMAN, NEVER MIND MY MUM.
Sometimes in recent years we have wondered, with Mum having dementia and being so very hard work, how Dad had the patience to tolerate Mum, given his condition. Maybe our fears are being realised now.
The care home said they couldn't get Mum and Dad to take their Meds. But I am wondering if a little more time spent with them, in calmly persuading them would make everyone's life easier and delay the admission to the dementia care unit.
I am worried that if they refuse to take the medication now prescibed and no one makes a great effort to deliver it, how then is any new meds going to work?
Sorry for the long rambling post, but I was in floods of tears as I drove home on Wednesday and now, don't know what to do for the best.
Don't know where to go from here, Mum has a phobia about lifts. The demensia unit, although having it's own lounge and dining room is on the first floor, but if we want to take them out, it would have to be the stairs, but could Dad manage?
I am thinking of looking for a care home with a dementia unit on the ground floor.
At the moment my mind is in bits, because, I thought that they were OK for quite some time to come, but I have had a sharp wake up call
Anyone any suggestions, as in how to get the carers in the present home to take time to deliver meds, or positive experiences of dementia units
Any advice would be gratefully received
Thanks
Alfjess