Hi I am after some advice regarding mum and dads care. Dad is in the advanced stages of vascular dementia and mum has mid stage Alzheimer’s. I have cared for my parents at home for the last 4 years. We have had carers in for the last 2 years on four calls a day. Dad has recently deteriorated and is refusing all personal care ( he is doubly incontinent) and getting increasingly aggressive. Mum doesn’t want care as she isn’t aware that she needs it. A district nurse visited dad recently and raised her concerns with SS, who came out to do a welfare check on dad. SS agreed with the care company and myself to increase the care package to two carers on each call and give an extra 45 minutes while dad waits for a medication review. 3 days later dad has become so aggressive they have admitted him to hospital to have review carried out there. Mum has caught an infection from dad smearing and has also ended up in hospital. I feel I am really struggling to cope with the demands of their care. My health is suffering as well as my
own family life with my children. I have told SS I can’t go on much longer like this. The hospital think
dad needs 24 hour care and won’t release him home. Mum is in the same dementia ward as dad. SS disagree and want them both back home with additional 45 mins care at home. I have looked around a local care home and can now see it would be the best thing as mum will get social aspect and dad gets 24 hour care. They own their own home and I have poa. Can I insist we want to sell the home and put them in a care home if SS don’t agree? I have worked out the property will fund about 18 months of care for the 2 of them.
own family life with my children. I have told SS I can’t go on much longer like this. The hospital think
dad needs 24 hour care and won’t release him home. Mum is in the same dementia ward as dad. SS disagree and want them both back home with additional 45 mins care at home. I have looked around a local care home and can now see it would be the best thing as mum will get social aspect and dad gets 24 hour care. They own their own home and I have poa. Can I insist we want to sell the home and put them in a care home if SS don’t agree? I have worked out the property will fund about 18 months of care for the 2 of them.