Hello, my Mum has been experiencing rapid onset dementia since Mid may due to having mini strokes. It has been a very steep learning curve for all of us (me, my Dad and brother) and my way of coping is to research research research as I find comfort in knowledge. It was such a relief to find this forum, read others experiences and realise we were not alone in our situation - probably should’ve put that in the Welcome thread!
Mum has been in and out of hospital and been becoming more and more confused and debilitated. She was discharged on Saturday to a care home, so after not seeing Mum for 10 days we were all excited (and apprehensive ) to get to see her when we took her things up for her. She waved madly when she saw us then just cried and cried, we tried to comfort her, told her it was a safe place for her to convalesce and regain strength, obviously we couldn’t hug her or hold her hand - but she just couldn’t understand. We were all shook up by experience, felt so guilty for leaving her there but she can’t be looked after properly at home at the moment. Didn’t sleep much that night and was awake when the staff at the home called at 6am to say Mum had had 2 falls overnight. She was sent back to hospital, crying that she didn’t want to go, shes had so many tests, she’s so fed up.
They have kept her in again for further tests (she’d bumped her head and had hip pain) and all I can see in my mind is that tiny little, scared almost unrecognisable lady - my Mum - sat in a hospital bed, not knowing why. We all just feel helpless at the moment. I think that she may’ve had another tia, hopefully we’ll get more information today. There is also questions over the suitability of the care home for Mums needs (she had a DoLs order on her for enhanced observations while in hospital) so depending on findings will probably need reassessing before discharge.
Sorry for the ramble but I feel better for it! Not sure what I’m asking? Maybe just, how do you cope with these situations in the current COVID-19 world? Life seems to be very cruel to my Mum at the moment ?
Mum has been in and out of hospital and been becoming more and more confused and debilitated. She was discharged on Saturday to a care home, so after not seeing Mum for 10 days we were all excited (and apprehensive ) to get to see her when we took her things up for her. She waved madly when she saw us then just cried and cried, we tried to comfort her, told her it was a safe place for her to convalesce and regain strength, obviously we couldn’t hug her or hold her hand - but she just couldn’t understand. We were all shook up by experience, felt so guilty for leaving her there but she can’t be looked after properly at home at the moment. Didn’t sleep much that night and was awake when the staff at the home called at 6am to say Mum had had 2 falls overnight. She was sent back to hospital, crying that she didn’t want to go, shes had so many tests, she’s so fed up.
They have kept her in again for further tests (she’d bumped her head and had hip pain) and all I can see in my mind is that tiny little, scared almost unrecognisable lady - my Mum - sat in a hospital bed, not knowing why. We all just feel helpless at the moment. I think that she may’ve had another tia, hopefully we’ll get more information today. There is also questions over the suitability of the care home for Mums needs (she had a DoLs order on her for enhanced observations while in hospital) so depending on findings will probably need reassessing before discharge.
Sorry for the ramble but I feel better for it! Not sure what I’m asking? Maybe just, how do you cope with these situations in the current COVID-19 world? Life seems to be very cruel to my Mum at the moment ?