Hi Nadya, I'm so sorry you're going through the same thing. It is incredibly depressing, especially when you see what seems to be everyone else enjoying their lives and freedom.I'm in a similar situation . My mom was diagnosed at 54 . I had to move in qith my mom in April 2019 and move part time. I was 33 at the time. Now I'm 35 and also feel trapped indoors. If i leave it is eother with her or find a carer. I'm entitled to social worker 2 a week for a couple of hours but it is taking so long to arrange it. Started in June still no progress.
What i feel is the best at this point in my life is to find a reliable carer with whom i can leave my mom. Haven't had respite in more than a year so looking for such a person at the moment with whom i can leave mom at home for 2 weeks
So it sounds like you have applied for adult social care via your local authority, you have had the care and carer needs assessment, and they have decided that your mum is entitled to 4 hours a week, 2 hours for 2 days a week home care... in June? If that's the case, that is way too long between the decision and the start of visits by carers. I would email everyone related and explain everything and find out when the care package will begin. I would be calling your local authority every day for a progress update. Also, it sounds like you need to ask for more home care to give you more of a break.
Hopefully when the care package starts, you will meet a carer you trust with your mum so you can take a proper break. Otherwise, you have the option to change care agencies or if you can afford it hire a private dementia carer (although not ideal for 2 weeks).
I submitted a complaint to my LA adult social services and my local MP. My MP's office really escalated my case so that might be worth thinking about.
I know it can be difficult asking for help but if there are any family members or friends that can take care of your mum for half a day at least, it will make a difference.
It makes me so sad to hear carers going through this when we are the ones saving the government tons of money and resources by putting our lives on hold to ensure our loved one is cared for properly.
I'm here if you need to chat. I really understand what you must be going through x