Mum’s funeral is on Wednesday

Discussion in 'After dementia — dealing with loss' started by KathrynAnne, Mar 16, 2019.

  1. KathrynAnne

    KathrynAnne Registered User

    Jun 6, 2018
    272
    Female
    South Yorkshire
    It’s just over 2 weeks since Mum passed away. It seems like longer! I’ve been busy letting everyone know, organising the funeral and sorting through paperwork. I’ve also been looking after my 16 month old granddaughter so I’ve not had much time to dwell on what’s happened. The funeral is on Wednesday and I’ll be relieved when that’s over with. My brother and I have written about Mum and it has been quite comforting. We are going to mention the dementia as it has obviously been a big part of the last few years but it has been good remembering life before dementia and the lovely Mum we were blessed to have. I am going to do a reading called Two mothers remembered which I’ve found very touching and entirely appropriate.

    I had two Mothers – two Mothers I claim
    Two different people, yet with the same name.
    Two separate women, diverse by design,
    But I loved them both because they were mine.
    The first was the Mother who carried me here,
    Gave birth and nurtured and launched my career.
    She was the one whose features I bear,
    Complete with the facial expressions I wear.
    She gave me her love, which follows me yet,
    Along with the examples in life that she set.
    As I got older, she somehow younger grew,
    And we’d laugh as just Mothers and daughters should do.
    But then came the time that her mind clouded so,
    And I sensed that the Mother I knew would soon go.
    So quickly she changed and turned into the other,
    A stranger who dressed in the clothes of my Mother.
    Oh, she looked the same, at least at arm’s length,
    But now she was the child and I was her strength.
    We’d come full circle, we women three,
    My Mother the first, the second and me.
    And if my own children should come to a day,
    When a new Mother comes and the old goes away,
    I’d ask of them nothing that I didn’t do.
    Love both of your Mothers as both have loved you.
     
  2. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,251
    Female
    South coast
    Such a poignant poem @KathrynAnne

    I hope all goes as well as it can on Wednesday
    xx
     
  3. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

    Apr 1, 2016
    2,911
    Nottinghamshire
    That's a lovely poem @KathrynAnne

    I hope it all goes well on Wednesday x
     
  4. jules29

    jules29 Registered User

    Mar 11, 2019
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  5. Duggies-girl

    Duggies-girl Registered User

    Sep 6, 2017
    1,487
    Oh @KathrynAnne that is a lovely poem and so very true.

    Hope Wednesday goes as well as possible x
     
  6. Elle3

    Elle3 Registered User

    Jun 30, 2016
    614
    What a lovely meaningful poem. I hope the funeral goes well. I am just in the process of organising my dads who died suddenly on Wednesday. Such a hard time.

    Take care.
    Elle x
     
  7. Milatoschris

    Milatoschris Registered User

    May 29, 2018
    14
    I hope all goes well on Wednesday. The poem is beautiful. Big hug x
     
  8. lis66

    lis66 Registered User

    Aug 7, 2015
    253
    Such a lovely true heartfelt poem kathrynann (((hugs)))) for Wednesday xx
     
  9. Moose1966

    Moose1966 Registered User

    Feb 10, 2017
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    Female
    Staffordshire
    That’s beautiful and just perfect . ❤️
     
  10. joanne d

    joanne d Registered User

    Feb 9, 2013
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  11. joanne d

    joanne d Registered User

    Feb 9, 2013
    44
    Lovely. My mum has just passed and this poem sums things up. Hope all goes weel WEdnesday. xx
     
  12. KathrynAnne

    KathrynAnne Registered User

    Jun 6, 2018
    272
    Female
    South Yorkshire
    I’m pleased to say everything went smoothly today. It was a beautiful, sunny day. I managed to read my poem and so many people were touched by it. The vicar was great and the venue afterwards was the perfect size and we had a lovely buffet. It was definitely a celebration for Mum. We also raised almost £300 for the Alzheimer’s Society xxx
     
  13. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,251
    Female
    South coast
    Im glad everything went as well as it could.
    xx
     
  14. jugglingmum

    jugglingmum Registered User

    Jan 5, 2014
    5,067
    Female
    Chester
    I'm glad it went well and that you managed to read your poem
     
  15. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

    Apr 1, 2016
    2,911
    Nottinghamshire
    It sounds as though you gave your mum a good send off!
     
  16. lis66

    lis66 Registered User

    Aug 7, 2015
    253
    Glad you got through today and we're able to read your poem xx
     
  17. Rolypoly

    Rolypoly Registered User

    Jan 15, 2018
    2,319
    What a beautiful poem, so apt, and I’m pleased you were able to read it today. You have done your mum proud.
     

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