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Mum’s funeral is on Wednesday

KathrynAnne

Registered User
Jun 6, 2018
270
South Yorkshire
It’s just over 2 weeks since Mum passed away. It seems like longer! I’ve been busy letting everyone know, organising the funeral and sorting through paperwork. I’ve also been looking after my 16 month old granddaughter so I’ve not had much time to dwell on what’s happened. The funeral is on Wednesday and I’ll be relieved when that’s over with. My brother and I have written about Mum and it has been quite comforting. We are going to mention the dementia as it has obviously been a big part of the last few years but it has been good remembering life before dementia and the lovely Mum we were blessed to have. I am going to do a reading called Two mothers remembered which I’ve found very touching and entirely appropriate.

I had two Mothers – two Mothers I claim
Two different people, yet with the same name.
Two separate women, diverse by design,
But I loved them both because they were mine.
The first was the Mother who carried me here,
Gave birth and nurtured and launched my career.
She was the one whose features I bear,
Complete with the facial expressions I wear.
She gave me her love, which follows me yet,
Along with the examples in life that she set.
As I got older, she somehow younger grew,
And we’d laugh as just Mothers and daughters should do.
But then came the time that her mind clouded so,
And I sensed that the Mother I knew would soon go.
So quickly she changed and turned into the other,
A stranger who dressed in the clothes of my Mother.
Oh, she looked the same, at least at arm’s length,
But now she was the child and I was her strength.
We’d come full circle, we women three,
My Mother the first, the second and me.
And if my own children should come to a day,
When a new Mother comes and the old goes away,
I’d ask of them nothing that I didn’t do.
Love both of your Mothers as both have loved you.
 

Elle3

Registered User
Jun 30, 2016
642
It’s just over 2 weeks since Mum passed away. It seems like longer! I’ve been busy letting everyone know, organising the funeral and sorting through paperwork. I’ve also been looking after my 16 month old granddaughter so I’ve not had much time to dwell on what’s happened. The funeral is on Wednesday and I’ll be relieved when that’s over with. My brother and I have written about Mum and it has been quite comforting. We are going to mention the dementia as it has obviously been a big part of the last few years but it has been good remembering life before dementia and the lovely Mum we were blessed to have. I am going to do a reading called Two mothers remembered which I’ve found very touching and entirely appropriate.

I had two Mothers – two Mothers I claim
Two different people, yet with the same name.
Two separate women, diverse by design,
But I loved them both because they were mine.
The first was the Mother who carried me here,
Gave birth and nurtured and launched my career.
She was the one whose features I bear,
Complete with the facial expressions I wear.
She gave me her love, which follows me yet,
Along with the examples in life that she set.
As I got older, she somehow younger grew,
And we’d laugh as just Mothers and daughters should do.
But then came the time that her mind clouded so,
And I sensed that the Mother I knew would soon go.
So quickly she changed and turned into the other,
A stranger who dressed in the clothes of my Mother.
Oh, she looked the same, at least at arm’s length,
But now she was the child and I was her strength.
We’d come full circle, we women three,
My Mother the first, the second and me.
And if my own children should come to a day,
When a new Mother comes and the old goes away,
I’d ask of them nothing that I didn’t do.
Love both of your Mothers as both have loved you.
What a lovely meaningful poem. I hope the funeral goes well. I am just in the process of organising my dads who died suddenly on Wednesday. Such a hard time.

Take care.
Elle x
 

joanne d

Registered User
Feb 9, 2013
44
It’s just over 2 weeks since Mum passed away. It seems like longer! I’ve been busy letting everyone know, organising the funeral and sorting through paperwork. I’ve also been looking after my 16 month old granddaughter so I’ve not had much time to dwell on what’s happened. The funeral is on Wednesday and I’ll be relieved when that’s over with. My brother and I have written about Mum and it has been quite comforting. We are going to mention the dementia as it has obviously been a big part of the last few years but it has been good remembering life before dementia and the lovely Mum we were blessed to have. I am going to do a reading called Two mothers remembered which I’ve found very touching and entirely appropriate.

I had two Mothers – two Mothers I claim
Two different people, yet with the same name.
Two separate women, diverse by design,
But I loved them both because they were mine.
The first was the Mother who carried me here,
Gave birth and nurtured and launched my career.
She was the one whose features I bear,
Complete with the facial expressions I wear.
She gave me her love, which follows me yet,
Along with the examples in life that she set.
As I got older, she somehow younger grew,
And we’d laugh as just Mothers and daughters should do.
But then came the time that her mind clouded so,
And I sensed that the Mother I knew would soon go.
So quickly she changed and turned into the other,
A stranger who dressed in the clothes of my Mother.
Oh, she looked the same, at least at arm’s length,
But now she was the child and I was her strength.
We’d come full circle, we women three,
My Mother the first, the second and me.
And if my own children should come to a day,
When a new Mother comes and the old goes away,
I’d ask of them nothing that I didn’t do.
Love both of your Mothers as both have loved you.
 

joanne d

Registered User
Feb 9, 2013
44
Lovely. My mum has just passed and this poem sums things up. Hope all goes weel WEdnesday. xx
 

KathrynAnne

Registered User
Jun 6, 2018
270
South Yorkshire
I’m pleased to say everything went smoothly today. It was a beautiful, sunny day. I managed to read my poem and so many people were touched by it. The vicar was great and the venue afterwards was the perfect size and we had a lovely buffet. It was definitely a celebration for Mum. We also raised almost £300 for the Alzheimer’s Society xxx
 

Rolypoly

Registered User
Jan 15, 2018
2,319
What a beautiful poem, so apt, and I’m pleased you were able to read it today. You have done your mum proud.