Hello.
My mum has what are definite signs of dementia as opposed to just simple forgetfulness.
Her actions and behaviour are causing increasing concern to myself and my brother and she is increasingly vulnerable and very open to being taken advantage of.
She dislikes her doctor (useless, pathetic are her words)
We have LPA and registered with bank but not doctor as the receptionists were particularly obstructive.
However, things have come to a head as from today she has a “lodger”. Her friend she says though only knows his first name.
He’s early 40s, no job and has MH issues.
We are seriously concerned and don’t know what to do.
Mum is fiercely independent and refuses any help .. we cannot get her to see anyone for any diagnosis or suppprt
She accuses us of thinking her stupid and thick and says she is more than capable of looking after herself . We know she’s not.
We are so scared she is going to be taken advantage of and the list of situations where this is potentially happening is increasing ie buying solar panelling, writing cheques for £5000 rather than £50 , having something paint or mend and giving money up front (and not needed as just done!) having people she calls friends into her house or going to theirs, not knowing or recognising two life long friends, thinking everyone she talks to in the park is her friend, driving to an appt and getting lost with the whole journey taking 3 hrs and her going to my brother’s instead, driving around looking for someone to fix her record player, leaving the house unlocked, losing keys/cards/handbag, constantly “sorting through things”.
She lives alone (dad died 30 yrs ago) and up until 2019 was very capable, independent and incredibly stubborn! But a social butterfly who lived life to the full.
Sorry I seem to have off loaded but the arrival of a stranger staying in her house has now taken things to another level ..
thank you
My mum has what are definite signs of dementia as opposed to just simple forgetfulness.
Her actions and behaviour are causing increasing concern to myself and my brother and she is increasingly vulnerable and very open to being taken advantage of.
She dislikes her doctor (useless, pathetic are her words)
We have LPA and registered with bank but not doctor as the receptionists were particularly obstructive.
However, things have come to a head as from today she has a “lodger”. Her friend she says though only knows his first name.
He’s early 40s, no job and has MH issues.
We are seriously concerned and don’t know what to do.
Mum is fiercely independent and refuses any help .. we cannot get her to see anyone for any diagnosis or suppprt
She accuses us of thinking her stupid and thick and says she is more than capable of looking after herself . We know she’s not.
We are so scared she is going to be taken advantage of and the list of situations where this is potentially happening is increasing ie buying solar panelling, writing cheques for £5000 rather than £50 , having something paint or mend and giving money up front (and not needed as just done!) having people she calls friends into her house or going to theirs, not knowing or recognising two life long friends, thinking everyone she talks to in the park is her friend, driving to an appt and getting lost with the whole journey taking 3 hrs and her going to my brother’s instead, driving around looking for someone to fix her record player, leaving the house unlocked, losing keys/cards/handbag, constantly “sorting through things”.
She lives alone (dad died 30 yrs ago) and up until 2019 was very capable, independent and incredibly stubborn! But a social butterfly who lived life to the full.
Sorry I seem to have off loaded but the arrival of a stranger staying in her house has now taken things to another level ..
thank you