I have heard so often of people crying over a lost animal and not over their lost relative or spouse - don't feel guilty about it. It applies to me too - I have not been able to cry for my mother yet - the grief just feels too deep. But I remember crying over lost dogs in the past.
Wishing you a good weekend and continued progress on your journey as you move on. xx
Thank you, Elaine. You are absolutely right - your grief for Gordon is so deep that as you say, you feel you have to contain it or you will go under.
It's good to let it out, of course - and eventually you and I will be able to cry for what we have lost - but grief takes a long long time to work through.
Love & best wishes. xx
Buried my dog in the garden with my son and cried my eyes out then I thought I am crying over my dog but I never cried over Gordon this way which then made me feel guilty why this has happened I don't know or may be I just needed this good cry this was my letting go.
To me this seems perfectly normal.Thank you Marcelle I was beginning to think it was just me thats not right somewhere you would think I would be more upset loosing Gordon than the dog I was with him longer but I have to laugh about it because it seems I have put the grief for the dog before him and I dont know why.
I have been thinking so much about Gordon this last week how I miss him! How nice it would be to be able to sit and chat with him about every day life! Our disagreements about what we are watching on TV or what we are even eating it is so empty.
I have been under the weather for a few days something as hit me it could be what I have been through in these last few months it's caught up with me and I find I am now sitting and crying for Gordon my grief is slowly creeping to the surface.
I cry over the good memories we had our love for each other the struggle towards the end the saying good bye till we meet again, dealing with the paper work the funeral, cremation and settling his affairs which needed dealing with are motions you have to do and I never thought about at the time but for some reason I have just relived it all again and this time it as sunk in.
I am giving myself this time now to grieve how long for I do not know! I do know it will not bring him back and I am not going to be in a good place while I am doing it I can only work through it at my own pace I just miss him dearly.
It's good that you're able to cry and reflect, painful though it must be. I know just what you mean about the 'business' aspects of dealing with loss, because all the paperwork and arranging connected with Mum's death have caused me a lot of worry, as I'm not good at that sort of thing.
All the best for the weekend, Elaine. xx
I have been thinking so much about Gordon this last week how I miss him! How nice it would be to be able to sit and chat with him about every day life! Our disagreements about what we are watching on TV or what we are even eating it is so empty.
I have been under the weather for a few days something as hit me it could be what I have been through in these last few months it's caught up with me and I find I am now sitting and crying for Gordon my grief is slowly creeping to the surface.
I cry over the good memories we had our love for each other the struggle towards the end the saying good bye till we meet again, dealing with the paper work the funeral, cremation and settling his affairs which needed dealing with are motions you have to do and I never thought about at the time but for some reason I have just relived it all again and this time it as sunk in.
I am giving myself this time now to grieve how long for I do not know! I do know it will not bring him back and I am not going to be in a good place while I am doing it I can only work through it at my own pace I just miss him dearly.
I have been going through something similar, Elaine, this past year - it will be two years come June since Henry died. A rollercoaster of emotions, but in recent months it feels like a lot that was subconsciously submerged is now surfacing.
I can't find the words to express it but you will know what I mean... I am trying to accept that this is another stage in grieving and let it be, as you say work through it.
Also missing Henry acutely.
Loo xx
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I have my date for starting the kitchen work 18th so been busy packing pots and pans up glad it was not last year now I would not have coped with all this and caring for Gordon at the same time.
I dread to think what it would be like if I was moving house I never realised how much stuff I have collected over the years that as not been used in years just boxed it ready for the charity shop.
I had to laugh because the things I have thrown out Gordon would have fetched them back and put them in the garage and said they will come in handy on day he never through anything away he was terrible really this is why once the house is done it will be the garage next I will need 3 skips for that lol and all the things I had put in the bin will finally see the bin for good this time.
In one sense it's done me good to have a good clear out its given me positive thoughts and I feel excited about having a new kitchen my living room will be a bit upside down for a few weeks with boxes and a table plus I will be cooking in it as well just microwave meals as I am not keen on having a gas bottle in the house but I will get through it.
I have been talking a lot about Gordon to different people they have asked if I am ok and then they apologies for bringing the subject up In case it upsets me but it does not bother me I love to talk about him he was a big part of my life and I love him more than ever.
I am moving on with happy thoughts.
Hugs to you all Elaine x
No words can explain how you feel apart from feeling empty, lost and disbelief of how your life as changed some how we need to carry on but with a struggle.
I have been talking a lot about Gordon to different people they have asked if I am ok and then they apologies for bringing the subject up In case it upsets me but it does not bother me I love to talk about him he was a big part of my life and I love him more than ever.
I am moving on with happy thoughts