Hi,
I am new to the forum and am hoping you can all offer me some advice. My husband's Nanny (diagnosed 4 years ago with vascular dementia and 81 years old) is coming over from Ireland to live in a care home near us (most of her children and grandchildren) We all agree this is the best thing with no family left in Ireland to care for her and her carers have now said they cannot cope, she keeps wandering so we fear for her safety especially as its now so much darker in the evenings.
I just wanted some advice and tips on the best way we can do it as a family. She doesn't want to leave her home, and doesn't really understand when her children try to explain, so we know getting her leave and on a plane (she hates travelling) will be stressful.
Is it better to be honest and make sure she says goodbye to her friends (this is the plan) or will this be to emotional and confusing for her? My biggest fear is she thinks that her husband (died 10 years ago) is in the back bedroom, and she has to look after him, even in past years when she has been quite well, she has always told me she must be back to Ireland for 'Joe' he'll be 'wondering where his dinner is'!
We will be bringing over her favourite armchair, photos, her cabinet etc.. so her room feels familiar, and creating a memories book of all her friends in Ireland, is there more we can do to make that a better experience for her?
We are all desperate to make this as good a move as it could possibly be, but we are very fearful it will be just too overwhelming for her, so any advice or previous experience would be very gratefully received
Kelly
I am new to the forum and am hoping you can all offer me some advice. My husband's Nanny (diagnosed 4 years ago with vascular dementia and 81 years old) is coming over from Ireland to live in a care home near us (most of her children and grandchildren) We all agree this is the best thing with no family left in Ireland to care for her and her carers have now said they cannot cope, she keeps wandering so we fear for her safety especially as its now so much darker in the evenings.
I just wanted some advice and tips on the best way we can do it as a family. She doesn't want to leave her home, and doesn't really understand when her children try to explain, so we know getting her leave and on a plane (she hates travelling) will be stressful.
Is it better to be honest and make sure she says goodbye to her friends (this is the plan) or will this be to emotional and confusing for her? My biggest fear is she thinks that her husband (died 10 years ago) is in the back bedroom, and she has to look after him, even in past years when she has been quite well, she has always told me she must be back to Ireland for 'Joe' he'll be 'wondering where his dinner is'!
We will be bringing over her favourite armchair, photos, her cabinet etc.. so her room feels familiar, and creating a memories book of all her friends in Ireland, is there more we can do to make that a better experience for her?
We are all desperate to make this as good a move as it could possibly be, but we are very fearful it will be just too overwhelming for her, so any advice or previous experience would be very gratefully received
Kelly