Hi
My dad is 72, started 8 years ago with dementia after a GA for hip replacement. Very much deteriorated over the last 12 months and much worse again over the last 2 months.
He has mixed type dementia of Alzheimer's and vascular.
He has carers at home, pretty dire at times but needs must, and me and my husband and my aunt and uncle (dads sister and husband) do the lion's share.
I work ft and still have a fairly young family (youngest in primary school) so splitting myself is hard work and the worry when I leave him is awful. So we ended up where we are now, moved house to a place with an annexe a few yards away and it's about ready for him to move in now.
It's become impossible to have a conversation for the last month or so, he's doing increasingly strange things and his hiding of things (well to him he's not hiding them but...!) has got to the impossible stage!
I had planned to tell him his boiler was faulty so he was coming to stay until it's fixed but tbh we are beyond comprehension of that now.
Fortunately he adores me and just wants to be with me so I'm hopeful he will settle in well.
He doesn't recognise he's at home much of the time, forever calling us to give him a lift home, so I'm not too worried about having too many familiar things around him other than photos and a couple of nice pictures.
Just wondered if anyone could offer any advice as locally it's not forthcoming!!
Many thanks
My dad is 72, started 8 years ago with dementia after a GA for hip replacement. Very much deteriorated over the last 12 months and much worse again over the last 2 months.
He has mixed type dementia of Alzheimer's and vascular.
He has carers at home, pretty dire at times but needs must, and me and my husband and my aunt and uncle (dads sister and husband) do the lion's share.
I work ft and still have a fairly young family (youngest in primary school) so splitting myself is hard work and the worry when I leave him is awful. So we ended up where we are now, moved house to a place with an annexe a few yards away and it's about ready for him to move in now.
It's become impossible to have a conversation for the last month or so, he's doing increasingly strange things and his hiding of things (well to him he's not hiding them but...!) has got to the impossible stage!
I had planned to tell him his boiler was faulty so he was coming to stay until it's fixed but tbh we are beyond comprehension of that now.
Fortunately he adores me and just wants to be with me so I'm hopeful he will settle in well.
He doesn't recognise he's at home much of the time, forever calling us to give him a lift home, so I'm not too worried about having too many familiar things around him other than photos and a couple of nice pictures.
Just wondered if anyone could offer any advice as locally it's not forthcoming!!
Many thanks