My husband was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's April 2012 at age 55. I have looked after him at home for the last 7 years. He is now at the severe stage and no longer wants our children or grandchildren to visit. As soon as anyone arrives he wants to go home to his mums ( she is 85 and was diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer April 2018 and prognosis was she wouldn't see Xmas).
We have not told him she is ill.
After much consideration and professional input from GP, dementia clinic doctor, mental health officer and Social Worker it was recommended that nursing care was best option for him.
We now have funding from 1st April and a care home has accepted him.
We are going to visit the care home on Wednesday and social worker is visiting tomorrow to finalise the move.
I am now overwhelmed with guilt and feelings that I am being selfish not keeping him at home.
He constantly wants to go home to his mum. he doesn't let me speak to anyone doesn't know any of our 4 sons, says he doesn't have children. Sometimes asked me who I am. Up during night pacing for hours. Refusing to use toilet pan peeing all over house. Now only doing a poo once a week which is a fight to get him on toilet. He has become aggressive when I attend to any personal care, pushing me and threatening to kill me.
As the date for the move becomes reality I am struggling to go through with it. My sons and their wife's all agree it is time for me to get my own life back.
Has anyone else experienced this .
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We have not told him she is ill.
After much consideration and professional input from GP, dementia clinic doctor, mental health officer and Social Worker it was recommended that nursing care was best option for him.
We now have funding from 1st April and a care home has accepted him.
We are going to visit the care home on Wednesday and social worker is visiting tomorrow to finalise the move.
I am now overwhelmed with guilt and feelings that I am being selfish not keeping him at home.
He constantly wants to go home to his mum. he doesn't let me speak to anyone doesn't know any of our 4 sons, says he doesn't have children. Sometimes asked me who I am. Up during night pacing for hours. Refusing to use toilet pan peeing all over house. Now only doing a poo once a week which is a fight to get him on toilet. He has become aggressive when I attend to any personal care, pushing me and threatening to kill me.
As the date for the move becomes reality I am struggling to go through with it. My sons and their wife's all agree it is time for me to get my own life back.
Has anyone else experienced this .
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Reply