Today has been the hardest day ever. Mum was served notice in the 'dementia residential 'home of 28 days and we were told she was dementia nursing; I don't think she is. We have found a lovely home only 5 mins from my home, very expensive top up but the homes social services were sending us to were miles away. It is though, mainly for people with challenging behaviour. My mom gets agitated and frightened but she does not hit out. She has now been separated from her sister who remains at the residential home as she is not as far advanced as mom, although my mom is quite aware of who we are and can hold a conversation to some extent. I have cried so much today, mom begged us to take her with us. There are only about 3 other people who could hold a conversation with her apart from staff. I tried to take her to her new room but she was firmly stuck to the floor and would not move, she looked so small and frail. Am I in denial? Will she settle? Why am I feeling so guilty? Tonight I have chest pains and palpitations and I feel sick to the stomach. I wish I could afford to pay for 24hr care, I would gladly do this for such a wonderful caring mum, but I can't.