Hi, sorry if this has already been discussed but I haven't been able to find a discussion about whether people would put their loved ones into a care home at the moment if they could possibly avoid it. My mum currently lives alone in sheltered accommodation but her dementia symptoms have increased a lot since lockdown. There have been a couple of hospital stays due to uti and delerium and her care has increased from once a day before lockdown to pratically 24 hour care now. She wanders at night, has halucinations and was found outside on the street unable to get back into the building (she said she was going to a party!) Mum has been very resistent to agency carers in the past so we organised a private carer last year which was working well, however, now she is there nearly all the time it is driving mum mad. It also means that my brother and I are trying to cover the times that she doesn't work. This works for mum but is very hard for us to juggle with our jobs and family commitments (I have young children). I made some enquiries to local care homes and we have been offered a self funding place but we are so unsure as to whether this would be the best thing to do given the current visiting restrictions and the real possibility of another full on lockdown. I know many of you will have loved ones in care homes at this time but should we be doing everything we can to try and avoid moving mum until the pandemic restrictions are lifted (whenever that may be). This was never going to be easy but we feel doubly guilty as we may be cutting off all contact for the forseeable future. What would you do?