Wendy, I sooo understand that! (Including trying to get a bath to myself without interruption!) To say my mother was a prude would be the biggest understatement I have ever made here..... (bless!)
I know I am of that generation (as most of us here?) where mothers and fathers were always 'completely covered up', never went to the 'bathroom' even to 'spend a penny' (let alone de-robe and heaven forbid have a bath!) without putting the lock on the door..... - nothing wrong with that of course, but barriers of what is/ was acceptable are hard to break down for them/us whether it is a matter of cultural norms and/or up-bringing... just another challenge...... (especially when a younger generation confronts us with their own 'thoughts on the matter'!!!!)
Margarita, UTI means urinary tract infection...... (to me, or at least as I've read it here.....) Found it strange myself that what I would know as a 'water infection', (e.g. cystitis you may have heard of or suffered from) could have an impact on a dementia sufferer..... may have got this horribly wrong - in which case someone tell me quick!
Whether there is another meaning to UTI, (but I'll stick with this for now) Dom's thread just made me think about whether my own mum might have been suffering .... certainly we had a particularly bad spell of 'missing the toilet' - at the time put it down to her not being physically able to always get to the bathroom quick enough..... although it did coincide with a particularly bad time memory-wise (mum is currently suspected VD/DLB)...
Ugh, this is an awful thought, but having suffered from a couple of UTIs over the years, I know I could only ever 'spend a penny' if under a warm shower (aside from the painkillers and antibitoics).... imagine how mum must have felt if she was in so much pain but couldn't communicate it....... and couldn't manage to get herself into anything like a warm shower to help herself....
Sorry better go, not being any help to anyone here.....and just found something else to feel guilty about.....
Soz, TF