Hi, first time in posting a question, however I have previously used this forum a lot for seeking advice whilst on the dementia journey. As I always say, "you have to live with it, to fully understand it". I sold my small flat a number of years ago to move back in with my mother as her care needs got greater as she deteriorated with this horrible illness, whilst still holding onto a demanding job. 3 years ago was my anus horribilis, as mums aggression increased and she was reluctantly sectioned under the Mental Capacity Act. Initially under section 2 then progressed onto section 3. A horrendous experience that has haunted me ever since. Following this, she transferred into a nursing home and is being fully funded between the local authority and NHS to cover the extortionate fees. I have continued to live in the house, without any challenge from my brother (he wouldn't dare as his support in mums care was very minimal) and have made slight improvements ,which I have funded for myself for decorating etc. as the house was very tired. I have used my mothers money for house repairs and was even told this week that the roof needs significant work on it following investigation of water leaking in the house. :0( I always thought I would live in the house long term as it has been our family home for 50 years, even despite "neighbours from hell" moving in next door 4 years ago, who lets just say didn't have any empathy to someone like my mother on their doorstep and were constantly complaining. The female neighbour, even works in the caring industry........... ! When I asked them to avoid doing things that would antagonise my mother, they would do it more and just kept telling me that we could move. They even anomalously contacted social services telling them my mother wasn't fit to be in her own home. They have continued with their bullish attitude towards me (I am a women on my own) and I am now at the end of my tether and just want to get away.
I have previously received mixed messages from informal conversations with various solicitors on what "my rights" were with mums home while mum is still with us, but I now want to understand if anyone has had experience of selling the home of the person with dementia who doesn't pay for care. I presume, if we can, the capital will sit with mum until she is no longer with us which will then be split between my brother and I as per her wishes on her will. We both have LPOA. I haven't yet raised the conversation with my brother, but he has no sentimental connection with the house or even live in the same town, so I know this wont be an issue.
I have previously received mixed messages from informal conversations with various solicitors on what "my rights" were with mums home while mum is still with us, but I now want to understand if anyone has had experience of selling the home of the person with dementia who doesn't pay for care. I presume, if we can, the capital will sit with mum until she is no longer with us which will then be split between my brother and I as per her wishes on her will. We both have LPOA. I haven't yet raised the conversation with my brother, but he has no sentimental connection with the house or even live in the same town, so I know this wont be an issue.