Hi -- My 73 year-old mother has had memory problems for at least three years, and it was only last year we (myself and my sister) finally managed to persuade her to see the doctor. She won't go with us, but she does go with my father. She had a series of blood tests last year, although trying to get information out of either of my parents is pretty difficult -- my father just tells us not to worry, and he'll look after her. But we were concerned that nothing was being done to test her cognitive abilities, so towards the end of the year my sister and I emailed our mother's GP setting out a pretty extensive list of symptoms as we have observed them. These include very evident memory loss issues -- repeating herself 5 times in a 15-minute conversation, not remembering how to use a rail ticket at a ticket barrier, becoming increasingly obsessive about her pet cats, and hoarding things including pebbles from the driveway. The GP obviously can't talk to us about our mother because she hasn't signed a disclaimer allowing him to do so. But he mentioned our email to our father the next time he took my mother to the GP, and then offered her memory classes. These are a faff to get to and so my mother refused. My concern is that he's not actually offered her any formal cognition tests, and my worry is that if she does have some form of dementia, he's just trying to avoid prescribing expensive drugs. My sister and I have read that there are treatments that can slow down the process, and we're really concerned that she needs to get this the soonest. And we have no idea what could explain her symptoms other than a form of dementia. But the GP doesn't seem willing to perform the needed tests.
What course of action could we take, and are we overreacting? It's very distressing every time I see her in a confused state -- although I do my best to act calmly and if she asks me the same question 5 times, I answer 5 times as if it were the first time she'd asked.
Many thanks
What course of action could we take, and are we overreacting? It's very distressing every time I see her in a confused state -- although I do my best to act calmly and if she asks me the same question 5 times, I answer 5 times as if it were the first time she'd asked.
Many thanks