Hello I’m new too this site and also dementia as a whole, my mother age (66) was diagnosed with vascular dementia after having a few strokes. Well I guess i should start from the beginning and give a bit of history, back in 2011 my mother had a mild heart-attack no surgery was needed, as I was only 21 roughly at the time I’m not exactly sure what they had given her, ( I was at home with her when this happened) she had numbness in Her arm and it was sore so I called 911 they took her to the hospital and gave her something I’m not sure what but she was better after that, than back in 2013 she has a stroke ( I’m not sure what type but I know she had one maybe a TIA? Not sure) than things were fine and life carried on as it always does than back in late 2015 early 2016 she got into cocaine, the why’s and how’s im not really too sure but she was hooked for I’ll say a year and a half maybe 2 years, she finally stopped after she had had an episode called Drug-Induced Psychotic Or at least that’s what i was told by the emergency department at our local hospital, she was having hallucinations so on and so forth, after she had quite and things were better, we had always been living in a basement apartment for the 2 years and dealing with loud and nasty neighbors we were fighting with them over the noise and taking out stuff so there was definitely stress involved for the time we were living there, so now we’re on to the first stroke that I’m at least aware of which happened on September 15th 2018, she was asleep at the time and I head her wake up and screaming for me she was telling me her body was numb and I of course took her to hospital she has another TIA stroke (multiple ones across the front of her forehead), a few days later she was released from the hospital and the numbness went away while she was in the the hospital, now skip one mouth exactly it’s two days before her birthday October 15th, I didn’t realize that she was having a stroke for the next 2 days I just assumed her was tired and she kept counting and she was laying in my bed and I thought maybe she was tired so I let her sleep, (woke her up a few hours later made her food) she was still very out of it and dazed I’ll say still didn’t think anything of it, ( when she came back for. The hospital she would have moments of confusion so that’s what I had thought this was) I was very wrong, she had happen to have a scheduled appointment for her diabetes on the date of her birthday oct 17th, we went and the doctors and nurses thought she was having a mild seizure, it turns out that the last two days she was home with me she was having a big stroke and I wasn’t aware of it ( I did the F.A.S.T) test and she was able to do them all so that’s why I didn’t think she was having a stroke, we go to the hospital and over the course of a month she’s being tested CT scans and everything else, that’s when I find out she has vascular dementia, and skip a few months into the new year my mother is in a nursing home and being cared for, but she seems to be giving up, she can’t walk anymore, she she can feed herself but needs help, can’t pee or care for herself like she once could before any of this happened, and now she’s also screaming out for me constantly and she have had a few falls in the home, trying to get out of bed and get up, she’s also leaning forward constantly about to fall, and when I go to see her she’s can’t even keep a conversation doing anymore it’s very sad and depressing. I’m not sure how far along she is in the dementia but it seems to be getting worse very fast, is this normal?, I’m at a loss I have 3 other sisters and two of them live in other part of the world ones in England and the other is in USA, when I go to see her they want to talk and see her on FaceTime and I of course do it, it’s just hard for me to see my mom like this and also I know that their being strong for their little bro ( I’m the youngest) but I know it’s coming that she will eventually pass away and I don’t even know how to deal with this let along that. I’m wondering is her leaning forward and her screaming out for me a sign that she’s getting worse, we’re waiting for a new set of CT scans to tell us what is going on but I just don’t know how to handle this.