Mother not washing hair

Discussion in 'I care for a person with dementia' started by haygreen, Jun 10, 2019.

  1. haygreen

    haygreen Registered User

    Sep 13, 2017
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  2. haygreen

    haygreen Registered User

    Sep 13, 2017
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    Sirena the suggestion you made about the shampoo was a good one.Thank you for your time and trouble considering my problem..haygreen
     
  3. haygreen

    haygreen Registered User

    Sep 13, 2017
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  4. haygreen

    haygreen Registered User

    Sep 13, 2017
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    Rosettastone thank you for your comments concerning washing hair. Was sad to hear you had a hard time with your mother-in-law. Cannot have been pleasant for you or the careers..Haygreen
     
  5. Sirena

    Sirena Registered User

    Feb 27, 2018
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    I hope you find something which works, let us know how you get on.
     
  6. la lucia

    la lucia Registered User

    Jul 3, 2011
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    My mum used to go to daycare that had a hairdresser come in once a week. It was great because they had all the gear and it meant I could sell daycare to my somewhat resistant mum as 'your hairdresser's appointment'.

    For her last year she didn't go to that particular daycare any more so I bought a plastic 'halo' and used it to wash her hair in the shower with the handheld device. It kept the water nicely away from her face.
     
  7. Bee.quilt

    Bee.quilt Registered User

    Dec 29, 2017
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    Identical problem here with OH. Am researching ‘tiny wet room shower/toilet combi’, as he’s taken to med- equip raised toilet without protest. Have small downstairs cloakroom to convert, but think could be used in other small spaces. I am hoping sitting down and being spray showered will seem like pampering rather than hygiene. Best wishes to you. I think caring must be a more difficult task for a man to undertake.B x
     
  8. Kubacoll

    Kubacoll New member

    Mar 18, 2019
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    We have found a trip to hair salon a welcome solution. (Now if there was only a shower salon!)
     
  9. B Lewis

    B Lewis Registered User

    Mar 13, 2017
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    Hi - WE had a very small wet room and it was a huge success - also look for a bidet Shower - this is highly controllable and helps with the loo too. A heated floor made it cosy and not cold on the feet as well. If you would like to read more you could look on the blog page of my website of LImon Attire. I have tried to write about the things that helped us when we were caring for our mum. All the best.
     
  10. charles57

    charles57 Registered User

    Mar 4, 2013
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    I have not been able to get my wife's hair washed for a long time but I have found that she lets a carer use a shampoo cap which you place over the head and the shampoo is massaged in. These are obtainable from completecareshop.co.uk and can be used cold or warmed up for a few seconds in a microwave and they can be singly or in packs of 24.
     
  11. Susan11

    Susan11 Registered User

    Nov 18, 2018
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    There is also a shampoo called Nilaqua which is put directly on to the hair, rubbed in and then towelled dry and then hair can be drIed with a hairdryer or left to dry naturally.
     
  12. Duggies-girl

    Duggies-girl Registered User

    Sep 6, 2017
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    I was able to wash dad's hair over the sink for a while but since his hospital stay he is too wobbly to stand there for long and he also insists that he has already washed it.

    We are now experimenting with the trendy idea that hair self cleans after a while and only needs combing. It seems ok up to now but dad doesn't have a lot of hair.
     
  13. Dootee

    Dootee Registered User

    Mar 8, 2016
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  14. Dootee

    Dootee Registered User

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  15. Dootee

    Dootee Registered User

    Mar 8, 2016
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    I too have the carers use that waterless shampoo in between regular washing .... until i can get there to bathe her fully x
     
  16. Greenwellies

    Greenwellies New member

    Nov 11, 2017
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    Hi. We battled with poor hygiene for a year or more, very unpleasant to live with. We now have a carer twice a week for one hour to shower mum and shampoo her hair. Things are much better, though not perfect. It seems the refusal to stay clean is a very common symptom, we got no help from the NHS. Our carer is private and wonderful. Good luck
     
  17. Dootee

    Dootee Registered User

    Mar 8, 2016
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    Please take deep breaths. Please be kind to yourself. Reach out for help if you need it. You cant do this alone. Most of all reach for your compassion youll need that the most. They are fearful and scared and not the person you once knew. Take one day at a time. Thinking of you xx
     
  18. Rach1985

    Rach1985 Registered User

    Jun 9, 2019
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    Yes I am starting to learn this, and learn a lot about myself too! I think compassion is the key
     
  19. Dootee

    Dootee Registered User

    Mar 8, 2016
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    Yes compassion is key .... but i know how frustrating it all is. It really tests your patience. Ice learned a lot too about myself. But when i reach for my compassion and think mum is scared i just hug her tight and we sing and it fades. Its a bumpy road hold on tight x
     
  20. Rach1985

    Rach1985 Registered User

    Jun 9, 2019
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    It is frustrating but then I realise how much harder it is for him. He was trying to tell us something the other day and he couldn’t find the word he wanted and he lightly in a kind of jokey way banged his head against the door and said my stupid brain. The heartbreaking part was seeing him trying to make us laugh even though it must be so scary for him. I don’t know sometimes if I’m doing right or wrong. Trying to help him find the right word so he can tell us what he wants, because then he gets frustrated that we don’t understand him. But then he also gets frustrated if we don’t help him. It’s a nasty disease
     

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