Hi I have never posted anything on line before but feeling a bit desperate for advice. My mother-in-law is in her early 90's and has Alzheimer's, quite advanced I assume but am only going on what I read online. She lives in sheltered accommodation and has lots of carers in during the day as well as myself and my husband. She says she hates living there and hates being on her own. If she is left alone for more than 15 minutes she starts phoning us to ask when are we coming and then on a 5 minute basis but never remembers that she has phoned or that she had had maybe 5 hours of carers in already that day. She can no longer turn on the TV, or the radio and won't let anyone turn them on, I think it is because she gets frightened as she knows she can't turn them off. She has been found wandering outside recently and also gets up during the night and thinks it is morning. She totally denies either and refuses to go into a home, she thinks it is our duty to look after her she accuses my husband of
'throwing her out' and she feels like 'nothing',I am sure these thoughts are very real to her but she just won't understand that we have her best interest at heart and she just isn't safe any longer in her home.
She went to a care home for a day and behaved so badly they said they wouldn't accept her. They said she needed a 'one to one' and recommended a nursing home where she would get more individual attention. We have now found one but she is refusing to go. We just want her looked after and to be safe and we are getting on ourselves and can't look after her any more and we are both worn out. Any advise welcome.