My Mum is 88 years old and recently she has become very confused and forgetful. Dad died in 2011 and she has managed to survive on a day to day basis being independent. Until a month ago she managed to fall and break her wrist. She was very confused and couldn't remember how or where she did it. Sadly I do not live near her and my sister who lives in the same town was away on holiday. Mum lives in a Warden Assistant Apartment near the sea front and has enjoyed her life until now. She has definitely gone down hill and we believe she hasn't been eating properly or even washing herself i.e. showering or even having a bath and in Mum's word just having a "strip wash". This hasn't really helped and she never seemed to partake in any activities within her flats and didn't get involved at all. Also my sister never used to go up to her flat she just used to pick her up from downstairs. Every time I went I said to my sister that seems to be disorganised and dirty and kept telling her. Now after all of this my sister has had to deal with organising carers 3 times a day and getting her Wiltshire Farm Foods. I do believe Mum not having the contact and not seeing my sister enough hasn't helped her. We are waiting to see the Mental Health Dept at the hospital on 12th July and then we can reassess the situation. Mum hasn't been out as my sister is yet again away on holiday and I live 4 hours away so not easy. I do ring her every night since my sister is away but its like she hasn't spoken to me for months. She even forgot my sister and I's birthday we are twins!! She was sad about this but she remembered it was my sisters and not mine when I spoke to her. Any ideas anyone ? I feel so frustrated at least I suppose my sister has got things going but no cleaner though its hard being far away...... and my sister has 3 adult children who don't seem to do much either!! Shame she doesn't live near me!