Hi everybody,
I'm pretty new to this website, but just looking for some advice.
mum 73 has been diagnosed with alzheimers - mild at the moment. my dad died 20 years ago and she has alone alone for 18 of those years. I am an only child - married with 2 children.
Just recently my mother has been frightened to stay alone. She has become paranoid - closing the blinds in case people look in, won't let her cat out in case people take her. We got a burglar alarm installed which quite honestly was more trouble than it was worth Thinks people might come in and syphon of her oil etc. You get the picture. I stay 1 night with her and my 2 boys stay a night each. The other nights shes either at our house for tea or we are at hers until 9 or 10. She keeps saying how long it is on your own, but to be perfectly frank , shes really not on her own very much. I work part time and take her out every afternoon as well.
Now she wants to come sleep at our house. we only have 3 bedrooms so we have discussed getting garage converted. She , however would not like to sleep downstairs, so would like my 17 year old to sleep there and she could have his room etc. He doesn't really want this
I love my mother, but I could not live with her. I also feel I have no life of my own. Now, on the odd occasion when I go out with friends she tells me I never take her out Taking her out every day doesn't count apparently.
Sorry for this turning into a ramble, but I'm very stressed at the minute - don't know what to do and am scared of what is ahead
Anybody got any advice?
I'm pretty new to this website, but just looking for some advice.
mum 73 has been diagnosed with alzheimers - mild at the moment. my dad died 20 years ago and she has alone alone for 18 of those years. I am an only child - married with 2 children.
Just recently my mother has been frightened to stay alone. She has become paranoid - closing the blinds in case people look in, won't let her cat out in case people take her. We got a burglar alarm installed which quite honestly was more trouble than it was worth Thinks people might come in and syphon of her oil etc. You get the picture. I stay 1 night with her and my 2 boys stay a night each. The other nights shes either at our house for tea or we are at hers until 9 or 10. She keeps saying how long it is on your own, but to be perfectly frank , shes really not on her own very much. I work part time and take her out every afternoon as well.
Now she wants to come sleep at our house. we only have 3 bedrooms so we have discussed getting garage converted. She , however would not like to sleep downstairs, so would like my 17 year old to sleep there and she could have his room etc. He doesn't really want this
I love my mother, but I could not live with her. I also feel I have no life of my own. Now, on the odd occasion when I go out with friends she tells me I never take her out Taking her out every day doesn't count apparently.
Sorry for this turning into a ramble, but I'm very stressed at the minute - don't know what to do and am scared of what is ahead
Anybody got any advice?