As you may remember we finally got a couple of carers in place for mum - she has to have two carers because of her aggressiveness and they were trying two hours, once a week to try and get her used to it before looking to increase it.
Well the first week went quite well all considered. The second time they said they had to leave because she kept putting her coat on. This week they stayed the full two hours but when dad came back they said she'd been agressive and they would have to speak to social services about it.
This raises two issues (well two main issues that I can think of!). Firstly, the fact that they mentioned social servies in front of mum sent her into a rage that continued for two days - day and night according to my dad and I completely believe him. Although it did make her try to wash the dishes for the first time in more than a year just to prove she can.
Secondly, why are they surprised at her aggression? One of the carers was there the day mum went for her social worker and this is why she has two carers so why are they suddenly being all shocked about this?
Dad is now saying he thinks he will cancel the carers because it's not worth the trouble - I've tried to persuade him to persevere because she's only going to get worse and so it may be even harder to get her to accept carers further down the line but I don't know if he's convinced.
It just feels like banging your head against a brick wall - I must admit I'm feeling a bit gloomy about it all.
To then top it all off they overpayment of salary that was made to mum is still an ongoing saga. I've been dealing with it now since December and still not really getting anywhere - it's still held in appeal. Despite that fact they still saw fit to send a letter to mum saying they would contact a debt collection agency if she didn't pay it back. Dad got all upset about it and I rang them and shouted until I was hoarse - I know it's not always effective but sometimes you just can't help it. Once again we had to go through the whole discussion of how I am her POA and they shouldn't be sending anything direct to my mum. What do they say? "We need your mum's authority to change her records to your address." I though blood would pour out of my ears I was so mad!!! My response "Well as she can't read, write or speak how would you like me to get that to you?".
Do you know what the worse thing is? This is a government agency we're talking about - and I work for the same one!!!!
Anyway I'm sorry to have such a long rant - I didn't mean for it to be but now I've started it's hard to stop. I'm just so sick of all of this - I wish it could all just go away. However, I shall gird up my loins and plough on...
Well the first week went quite well all considered. The second time they said they had to leave because she kept putting her coat on. This week they stayed the full two hours but when dad came back they said she'd been agressive and they would have to speak to social services about it.
This raises two issues (well two main issues that I can think of!). Firstly, the fact that they mentioned social servies in front of mum sent her into a rage that continued for two days - day and night according to my dad and I completely believe him. Although it did make her try to wash the dishes for the first time in more than a year just to prove she can.
Secondly, why are they surprised at her aggression? One of the carers was there the day mum went for her social worker and this is why she has two carers so why are they suddenly being all shocked about this?
Dad is now saying he thinks he will cancel the carers because it's not worth the trouble - I've tried to persuade him to persevere because she's only going to get worse and so it may be even harder to get her to accept carers further down the line but I don't know if he's convinced.
It just feels like banging your head against a brick wall - I must admit I'm feeling a bit gloomy about it all.
To then top it all off they overpayment of salary that was made to mum is still an ongoing saga. I've been dealing with it now since December and still not really getting anywhere - it's still held in appeal. Despite that fact they still saw fit to send a letter to mum saying they would contact a debt collection agency if she didn't pay it back. Dad got all upset about it and I rang them and shouted until I was hoarse - I know it's not always effective but sometimes you just can't help it. Once again we had to go through the whole discussion of how I am her POA and they shouldn't be sending anything direct to my mum. What do they say? "We need your mum's authority to change her records to your address." I though blood would pour out of my ears I was so mad!!! My response "Well as she can't read, write or speak how would you like me to get that to you?".
Do you know what the worse thing is? This is a government agency we're talking about - and I work for the same one!!!!
Anyway I'm sorry to have such a long rant - I didn't mean for it to be but now I've started it's hard to stop. I'm just so sick of all of this - I wish it could all just go away. However, I shall gird up my loins and plough on...
