I have lost count of the number of times I have told various NHS workers to ring me and NOT my parents as Mum has dementia and gets incredibly anxious about pretty much anything and Dad is deaf and has Parkinson's. However i did think that, when I took my Mum to the Memory clinic last week and the Practitioner who did her assessment was the nice lady who had run the Cognitive Thinking Course last year and knew Mum well that we might get a proper service this time. She said she would ring ME and even recited my mobile number to me from her info sheet. So WHY did she ring Dad at the end of last week and send the letter about the meeting they were holding about my Mum TO my Mum? And WHY today did some Psychologist woman phone up and tell my Mum she was coming next Friday to assess her, throwing Mum into a very distressed state which my Dad couldn't handle? Plus I am away next Friday for a few days to celebrate my birthday (it may be my last chance for a while) and my brother is taking over - he is great but he doesn't know much about these NHS people and wouldn't know what to ask. Somebody is going to be on the end of a right paddy tomorrow.