I know there isn't any advice because I've read about these things on this forum and know what is happening is inevitable. I guess it's just therapy to put it down.
I'll keep it brief.
I visited mum at the weekend. She seems more confused recently. Asking the same question several times. I pointed at something and she didn't seem to register what pointing actually was and just looked at my face. Her eyes look distant. She's clutching the keys which are hanging around her neck for dear life. Tonight at 5pm she spoke to my brother who told me she was obsessing about the keys again. When I rang her she said he was laughing at her for wearing them around her neck and calling her stupid. Not true AT ALL. I spoke to her at 7pm. She was annoyed/aggressive. She didn't like the carer who came and she didn't make her a meal. Not true. She thought it was morning not evening (this particularly worries me). She got so annoyed at me and said she couldn't understand a word I was saying (I stayed calm and tried to calm her). Then said she wanted to just stand in front of a car. I do worry that one day she might do that. She's threatened it before.
So there she is all alone at home in her completely confused/annoyed/upset/sad world and I just want to bury my head in a pillow and fall apart. I can't bear this.
Is this progression? Sun downing? Another UTI?
I'm tired of trying to work it out and do the right thing. I wish it wasn't my problem and I wish more than anything that my mum could help me through this. But she can't.
I'll keep it brief.
I visited mum at the weekend. She seems more confused recently. Asking the same question several times. I pointed at something and she didn't seem to register what pointing actually was and just looked at my face. Her eyes look distant. She's clutching the keys which are hanging around her neck for dear life. Tonight at 5pm she spoke to my brother who told me she was obsessing about the keys again. When I rang her she said he was laughing at her for wearing them around her neck and calling her stupid. Not true AT ALL. I spoke to her at 7pm. She was annoyed/aggressive. She didn't like the carer who came and she didn't make her a meal. Not true. She thought it was morning not evening (this particularly worries me). She got so annoyed at me and said she couldn't understand a word I was saying (I stayed calm and tried to calm her). Then said she wanted to just stand in front of a car. I do worry that one day she might do that. She's threatened it before.
So there she is all alone at home in her completely confused/annoyed/upset/sad world and I just want to bury my head in a pillow and fall apart. I can't bear this.
Is this progression? Sun downing? Another UTI?
I'm tired of trying to work it out and do the right thing. I wish it wasn't my problem and I wish more than anything that my mum could help me through this. But she can't.
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