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More and More Mum is "Wanting to go home"

worriedson1

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Jan 30, 2012
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She is being more and more like this and is "seeing things" more and more i have noticed also.

She has taken her slippers off and is trying to get her shoes on and i'm trying to stop her, she is swearing at me and saying "You are no son of mine".

:(:(:(
 

Canadian Joanne

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Apr 8, 2005
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Toronto, Canada
Trying to convince her she's at home won't work, how about trying to get her to stay "till tomorrow" when you can escort her?

The 'going home' stage is very common and it can be so hard to deal with, both practically and emotionally. Good luck to you.
 

Raggedrobin

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Jan 20, 2014
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is your mum on any meds? With the theory that home is really a metaphorical place of security in a world where she feels insecure, maybe it is worth talking to her GP or the mental health team if she comes under one to see if anything could help calm her down? I know a lot of people are against drug use for symptoms, but at the moment it seems to be helping my mum x
 

yoyo

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Sep 22, 2012
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She is being more and more like this and is "seeing things" more and more i have noticed also.

She has taken her slippers off and is trying to get her shoes on and i'm trying to stop her, she is swearing at me and saying "You are no son of mine".

:(:(:(
we've gone through this stage and I have done what you are doing, what i did done eventually is let her get her coat and shoes on bag at her side and explained that its raining and cold outside and that it would be better to go in the morning. saying please stay with me and we'll have a cuppa hey? I think it was more about getting the cloths on - mum sat in her fur jacket with shoes on in bed one night thinking she was on the bus going home!! saying quick get you'll miss the bus. For us it happened mostly late afternoon or night (sundowning) so she wouldn't remember the following day thankfully. I hope you find a way of calming her - good luck :)
 

Raggedrobin

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Jan 20, 2014
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Another technique i read on here is to take her out, walk her around the block thus distracting her and then say, shall we go back for a cup of tea now? Mum's cleaner and Me took mum for a drive in the middle of the night to try to calm her, like a baby, and it worked, by the time we got home and had a drink she was tired enough to forget it for the night,
 

yoyo

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Sep 22, 2012
80
Another technique i read on here is to take her out, walk her around the block thus distracting her and then say, shall we go back for a cup of tea now? Mum's cleaner and Me took mum for a drive in the middle of the night to try to calm her, like a baby, and it worked, by the time we got home and had a drink she was tired enough to forget it for the night,
There's so much good advice for people who can get about, but my mum was unable to and lost so many cognitive skills and it took all of us to keep her occupied - my mum was a party animal, so keeping her happy took a lot of effort ......
 

Miss Polly

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Feb 12, 2014
66
Mum was on her usual "I must get back to my house" rant and as it was a lovely, warm afternoon I decided to let her go. She packed her bag, put her coat on and, after checking I would be all right on my own, off she went. I followed her in order to see where she thought she was going. She crossed the road, luckily we live in a close, and headed off towards the end of the road. I tried to keep out of sight. She stopped, had a little think and turned around. I "met" her and she said she had to go home but she didn't have her keys on her. I produced my keys and she just laughed. Then we walked back to the house and she was happy that she was home. She seems to do this more when I have taken her out of the house perhaps to go shopping or she has been to daycare. If she is in all day it doesn't seem to happen as much.