Hi, I've been reading the posts here for a while and feel humbled by the kindness and fortitude shown. I'd be grateful for a little advice on how best to handle demands which are impossible to fulfill.
My husband is an only child. Two years after his Dad died with dementia his Mum has been diagnosed with AD. She has moved into a CH close to where we live as my husband could no longer support her in her own home 130 miles away from our home. The CH we chose is simply wonderful.
My husband has found events very stressful and is in quite a depressed state. He wants to do his best for his Mum but feels that she has a smile for everyone but him...he has POA and has spent an enormous amount of time sorting out her affairs.
She has been in the CH for 6 months now and bombards us with phone calls. She wants money, despite having had £70 in her purse for weeks, she wants at least a thousand pounds and she wants it now!! My poor husband is tearing his hair out...
We've tried every tactic we can think of, avoiding confrontation, attempts to distract, simple reasoning.
Has anyone else had a similar scenario? I'm very anxious to try to make the best of our situation and to support my husband and Mil.
Thank you so much if you've taken the time to read this post.
My husband is an only child. Two years after his Dad died with dementia his Mum has been diagnosed with AD. She has moved into a CH close to where we live as my husband could no longer support her in her own home 130 miles away from our home. The CH we chose is simply wonderful.
My husband has found events very stressful and is in quite a depressed state. He wants to do his best for his Mum but feels that she has a smile for everyone but him...he has POA and has spent an enormous amount of time sorting out her affairs.
She has been in the CH for 6 months now and bombards us with phone calls. She wants money, despite having had £70 in her purse for weeks, she wants at least a thousand pounds and she wants it now!! My poor husband is tearing his hair out...
We've tried every tactic we can think of, avoiding confrontation, attempts to distract, simple reasoning.
Has anyone else had a similar scenario? I'm very anxious to try to make the best of our situation and to support my husband and Mil.
Thank you so much if you've taken the time to read this post.