Why does everything seem to hinge around £ or lack of?! It bluddy shouldn't! Flew to the UK a couple of weeks ago to visit Mum (in care home since end Dec. 2015), to try and get POAs in place and put her house on the market. On the day, Mum failed the mental capacity test so it looks like I may have to go the Deputyship route. Mum's debit card and cheque book have "gone missing" (along with other personal possessions such as her handbag, purse, specs etc). Her bank won't deal with me, understandably, until something formal is in place. The care home want £ in a client "pot" right now to pay for chiropodist, optician, toiletries etc. I had to hand over the last of my sterling to pay for a chiropodist to see to Mum's feet. There are outstanding utility bills at her house - I've written to all the utility companies explaining the situation but they are refusing to deal with me as I have no legal/signed authority. The British Gas rep I spoke to actually said "Well, when your Mum is better and back home, she can settle her account then." ***?! After that one I gave up calling them all by telephone and began writing. Mum signed the sales agreement with the estate agent (with myself named as Client 2, anticipating a POA would be in place soon) so the house is on the market but now the estate agent wants £ for their online advertising... I contacted a solicitor I found from the Solicitors for the Elderly website, who said that I will need a Deputyship for health and welfare matters as well as financial (because Mum & I have agreed that she's to move here to live with me), so that's 2 lots of fees involved and that although I can request that the Court orders that legal costs are recovered from my Mum, if they don't grant this request then I will be responsible for solicitor's/court fees myself. All Mum's photo IDs have expired, meaning she can't travel, so that needs sorting and is going to cost £. I'm on a means tested benefit myself and simply don't have the £ to pay for all this stuff. Any money I'm able to put by has to go towards paying for flights to the UK, car hire, accommodation etc when I'm there, to visit Mum. I feel as if I'm bashing my head against a brick wall right now, in between all the sleepless nights. I need asap to get Mum out of the care home where, "nice" enough as it is, the care is catering to the lowest common denominator (probably a non PC phrase but that's the only way I can describe it) and Mum is nowhere near that level yet. The longer she remains there though, the faster I fear her decline will be. Apologies - not sure if this is a rant or a plea for advice or both!