My mum was sectioned last November and if you have read my other threads you will know that I have disfunctional siblings (excluding me of course 
) When mum was transferred from the hospital to the EMI unit nursing home I asked the social services if they had got my mum's £50 which was deposited in the hospitals safe in case she needed any for hair etc. Mum would not have anything done so she did not spend any of the money. The SW said she would look into it but weeks went on by. Last week I myself phoned the hospital and they checked everything and came back to me and said that mum was given the money with her belongings which is documented and then she was transferred from the hospital in an ambulance to the home (I was away at the time). The home said they did not get any money and that my brother was there when she arrived but they did not know what happened to it. I asked them if the patient is given the money directly from the hospital and they said that is not what usually happens. They asked me if it was in her handbags (she has four!). They said that mum does not let them in her bags and they could not be sure. Mum asked me for money a couple of weeks ago as she said she did not have any and how could she buy any sweets. I told the nursing home that I did not think she had any money. The hospital said that the ambulance driver passed on all possessions to my brother. Yesterday the home said they managed to check all mum's bags etc and could not find any money. So this is missing and I cannot go accusing people as I come to a dead end when asking anything as someone always says they were not there and my brother was but fail to actually say the obvious if that was the case. I feel that I should not let it drop but cannot go accussing anyone without proof. I told the home that with all the stuff going on with my brothers aggressive behaviour they basically let him get away with it and now he may have my mums money. I stood down from POA through very bad bullying and aggressive behaviour from siblings which involved the police and even they said they could not get involved unless they hit me. Well I wonder what I should do, maybe I should just let it drop and hope they home are a bit more careful next time.
) When mum was transferred from the hospital to the EMI unit nursing home I asked the social services if they had got my mum's £50 which was deposited in the hospitals safe in case she needed any for hair etc. Mum would not have anything done so she did not spend any of the money. The SW said she would look into it but weeks went on by. Last week I myself phoned the hospital and they checked everything and came back to me and said that mum was given the money with her belongings which is documented and then she was transferred from the hospital in an ambulance to the home (I was away at the time). The home said they did not get any money and that my brother was there when she arrived but they did not know what happened to it. I asked them if the patient is given the money directly from the hospital and they said that is not what usually happens. They asked me if it was in her handbags (she has four!). They said that mum does not let them in her bags and they could not be sure. Mum asked me for money a couple of weeks ago as she said she did not have any and how could she buy any sweets. I told the nursing home that I did not think she had any money. The hospital said that the ambulance driver passed on all possessions to my brother. Yesterday the home said they managed to check all mum's bags etc and could not find any money. So this is missing and I cannot go accusing people as I come to a dead end when asking anything as someone always says they were not there and my brother was but fail to actually say the obvious if that was the case. I feel that I should not let it drop but cannot go accussing anyone without proof. I told the home that with all the stuff going on with my brothers aggressive behaviour they basically let him get away with it and now he may have my mums money. I stood down from POA through very bad bullying and aggressive behaviour from siblings which involved the police and even they said they could not get involved unless they hit me. Well I wonder what I should do, maybe I should just let it drop and hope they home are a bit more careful next time.
