Back in April I asked for some advice on my FIL fixation with having money, but then always mislaying/hiding it. We had constant upsetting phone calls saying he had no money and he must have some, although of course he did not need any.
Our solution was to give him a bag of £1 coins rather than notes in his wallet, which he immediately lost. This was partially successful as long as he did not move it from the draw it was kept in. We still get some phone calls about money but nothing like we used to have, and we can point him to the draw. He always says "I didn't know about that", and we just ignore it as there is no point saying we have told him lots of times.
The best solution was using our POA to move all his bills to our address, even though they were only statements as everything is paid by DD. As there is nothing to prompt him about money it does not cross his mind so often. Every piece of post used to create half a dozen phone calls, which led on to questions about where did he get his money from, where is his bank account, how much is his pension, etc, etc. That has now largely disappeared.
I would say that these two changes have improved our lives no end. Thanks for everyone who made suggestions and maybe other people can try them.
Our solution was to give him a bag of £1 coins rather than notes in his wallet, which he immediately lost. This was partially successful as long as he did not move it from the draw it was kept in. We still get some phone calls about money but nothing like we used to have, and we can point him to the draw. He always says "I didn't know about that", and we just ignore it as there is no point saying we have told him lots of times.
The best solution was using our POA to move all his bills to our address, even though they were only statements as everything is paid by DD. As there is nothing to prompt him about money it does not cross his mind so often. Every piece of post used to create half a dozen phone calls, which led on to questions about where did he get his money from, where is his bank account, how much is his pension, etc, etc. That has now largely disappeared.
I would say that these two changes have improved our lives no end. Thanks for everyone who made suggestions and maybe other people can try them.
