Vascular dementia mom has had Cheyne-Stokes breathing then stops, she stops eating then resumes, hands and feet are cold then warm up again, has thick secretions then it clears up, holds her urine for up to 24 hours then out it all comes at once. Seems like her brain is on auto-correct. She says she wants to go home, talks to dead relatives, reaches into the air. Her face turns red at times then lips turn white for hours and she in a staring frozen position. It is so emotionally draining to worry about what to do to help her. She is hospice care at home.