2001 - "Jan’s birthday. I arrived at 1pm as Jan’s family from Neath had asked to visit her—first [and last] time they had shown interest. I had warned the ward staff to be on hand lest they scare Jan by going over the top; I told them [the staff] I would physically throw them out if so. As things turned out, they were okay today. They stayed from about 2pm until 5.30pm. I left at 6pm. Jan was really good and so brave, considering she must have been very confused. A good few smiles, a few near tears. The staff sang “Happy Birthday” to her earlier today. I feel so frustrated that I am unable to help her."
2002 - "Jan’s birthday. I was officially working from home today, but for the most part I was resting my back. In the afternoon I called in at Marks and Spencer to pick up flowers and a cake for Jan for her birthday. At the home, Jan seemed pleased—as far as one can tell—to see the flowers and cake. She enjoyed a piece of the cake and a cup of tea. There was no real joining of, well, anything, but we had a nice time. I gave the rest of the cake to the staff."
2003 - "Jan’s 63rd birthday. Linda the chef had made a birthday cake. Jan and I spent the first 30 minutes crawling in her room. Then we went to the dining room where a poster had been set up with balloons and everyone sang Happy Birthday to Jan. As good a visit as one could expect but I find that Jan’s sight deficiency very disconcerting."
2004 - "Jan’s 64th Birthday. I took in a rock cake I had made, plus chocolates, plus 12 red roses. Ann also came and we all spent the visit in the soft room. Jan was not very communicative and as always fell to her left all the time."
2005 - "Jan’s 65th birthday.I arrived for tea. A card and chocolates were already there from Nina's daughter, plus some balloons arranged by the home. I took in Jan’s other cards and some flowers. Linda the chef had made a chocolate birthday cake for Jan. Jan was oblivious to everything as she was fast asleep. I sat by her for 20 minutes then held her hand, just after which Jan stirred and woke up. We had some nice moments and some seeming recognition, a few words, even. Gave Jan some cake, but she also nose-dived into the plate with messy chocolate results! Had some “oohs” and other near words from her. Nice visit."