I've not posted anything for a while and after having a read through the posts so far I have already put things into some kind of perspective.
I wanted to ask if anyone is accused of taking things that probably never existed and if at all it was decades ago?
As a family unit we have all been in the firing line and strangely enough, when we offer to help look in drawers and cupboards we are told quite vehemently to stop looking! When we offer explanations; have the carers put it away somewhere else? Did you break it and forget throwing it away? Did you lend it to someone? The answer is always the same.......YOU'VE STOLEN IT!!!!!!
I'm the current suspect and things have been so heated, I was actually in fear of my safety as Dad was getting very aggressive, that I have not been visiting.
Oddly enough, some of the things we do recall being in the house but clearly have been discarded through damage and wear and tear. This is stuff like non-stick pans with the coating scratched off, blunt and damaged cutlery, a grotty wooden bread board and the latest item is a fish slice!
There has also been more serious accusations but despite how hard we try to remain calm and talk things through, Dad always remains unreasonable, illogical and aggressive. Has anyone else experienced this kind of behaviour and if so how does one cope with constantly being accused when all you want to dogs keep someone safe and well cared for?
I wanted to ask if anyone is accused of taking things that probably never existed and if at all it was decades ago?
As a family unit we have all been in the firing line and strangely enough, when we offer to help look in drawers and cupboards we are told quite vehemently to stop looking! When we offer explanations; have the carers put it away somewhere else? Did you break it and forget throwing it away? Did you lend it to someone? The answer is always the same.......YOU'VE STOLEN IT!!!!!!
I'm the current suspect and things have been so heated, I was actually in fear of my safety as Dad was getting very aggressive, that I have not been visiting.
Oddly enough, some of the things we do recall being in the house but clearly have been discarded through damage and wear and tear. This is stuff like non-stick pans with the coating scratched off, blunt and damaged cutlery, a grotty wooden bread board and the latest item is a fish slice!
There has also been more serious accusations but despite how hard we try to remain calm and talk things through, Dad always remains unreasonable, illogical and aggressive. Has anyone else experienced this kind of behaviour and if so how does one cope with constantly being accused when all you want to dogs keep someone safe and well cared for?