My mum has been a type-1 diabetic from the age of 10. She is now just turned 53 and as a result of her diabetes has suffered from four mini-strokes and a left-leg amputation. Her memory after each stroke has got progressively worse and significantly worse after the last one she has had. I have been her carer since the age of 14 and have since left to get a university degree and to make her proud.
I am finding it really hard to come to terms with. I am only 21 and it feels like I am the only person my age who is going through something like this. I am currently in the process of seeking a formal diagnosis for dementia. I do feel as though I am grieving and have been for the past three years. It is a huge loss and so very painful when my mum does not recognise me sometimes. She has good days and bad days. As being her carer, I was always proud of having her health under control with her blood sugars. Now, I feel that dementia has taken all that control away.
I do find myself questioning whether it be best to carry on with my education and pursuit to be a lawyer, or to put everything on hold and go home. Part of me wants to be with her more often - another part does not want to watch dementia slowly chip away at her.
I hope you can help me find some solace.
- E
I am finding it really hard to come to terms with. I am only 21 and it feels like I am the only person my age who is going through something like this. I am currently in the process of seeking a formal diagnosis for dementia. I do feel as though I am grieving and have been for the past three years. It is a huge loss and so very painful when my mum does not recognise me sometimes. She has good days and bad days. As being her carer, I was always proud of having her health under control with her blood sugars. Now, I feel that dementia has taken all that control away.
I do find myself questioning whether it be best to carry on with my education and pursuit to be a lawyer, or to put everything on hold and go home. Part of me wants to be with her more often - another part does not want to watch dementia slowly chip away at her.
I hope you can help me find some solace.
- E