Hi, I have been reading the boards for a few weeks now trying to get some idea of to expect with my MIL and to tell the truth it's scaring me.
We have noticed symptoms of dementia for about 4 years but it all came to a head about 9 weeks ago when we had a phone call at 4.30 in the morning from the ambulance service that she had been found wandering the streets and could we come and look after her.
I had been going to see her every day for the last 18 months anyway to take her food and making sure she takes her medication etc. Now she has moved in with us and it's so so hard to look after her. She has no concept of anything and needs to be watched 24/7 as if you take your eyes off her for a second she hurts herself or wanders off. She doesn't sleep much and gets up about 4 times a night stripping her clothes off and her bedding so I have to redress her and the bed, she refuses to wear a nightie to bed and will kick off when we put her in one, refusing to do anything until we get her dressed again. She also has taken to wetting and pooing herself occasionally, not all the time sometimes she realises what she is doing and sometimes she has no clue.
Most days she wanders the house constantly looking for god knows what and generally muttering to herself. She makes no sence when she says anything anymore and I have taken to just agreeing with her to keep the peace.
She eats next to nothing but loves biscuits etc but as she's borderline diabetic then these have to be kept to a minimum which annoys her no end.
She sundowns every night for about 4 hours where she gets so agitated you cannot reason or even change the subject, her breathing gets bad and she goes weak like she's going to collapse and she walks around non stop.
Sorry this post is so long just need to tell someone how bad it is getting, as coping with her, my 11 year old hormonal daughter, my OH who works from 6am til 6pm everyday, and also doing my own job 3 nights and 1 morning a week is beginning to run me down a bit.
I guess I just need to know I am not alone and if anyone has any tips on how to reason with her, she fell down the steps into our conservatory yesterday and hurt her hand but she has an obsession to walk up and down the 2 steps constantly which I am trying to stop her doing but she forgets why as soon as I tell her, it's not possible to lock the steps off to stop her.
Thanks for reading.
Sam
We have noticed symptoms of dementia for about 4 years but it all came to a head about 9 weeks ago when we had a phone call at 4.30 in the morning from the ambulance service that she had been found wandering the streets and could we come and look after her.
I had been going to see her every day for the last 18 months anyway to take her food and making sure she takes her medication etc. Now she has moved in with us and it's so so hard to look after her. She has no concept of anything and needs to be watched 24/7 as if you take your eyes off her for a second she hurts herself or wanders off. She doesn't sleep much and gets up about 4 times a night stripping her clothes off and her bedding so I have to redress her and the bed, she refuses to wear a nightie to bed and will kick off when we put her in one, refusing to do anything until we get her dressed again. She also has taken to wetting and pooing herself occasionally, not all the time sometimes she realises what she is doing and sometimes she has no clue.
Most days she wanders the house constantly looking for god knows what and generally muttering to herself. She makes no sence when she says anything anymore and I have taken to just agreeing with her to keep the peace.
She eats next to nothing but loves biscuits etc but as she's borderline diabetic then these have to be kept to a minimum which annoys her no end.
She sundowns every night for about 4 hours where she gets so agitated you cannot reason or even change the subject, her breathing gets bad and she goes weak like she's going to collapse and she walks around non stop.
Sorry this post is so long just need to tell someone how bad it is getting, as coping with her, my 11 year old hormonal daughter, my OH who works from 6am til 6pm everyday, and also doing my own job 3 nights and 1 morning a week is beginning to run me down a bit.
I guess I just need to know I am not alone and if anyone has any tips on how to reason with her, she fell down the steps into our conservatory yesterday and hurt her hand but she has an obsession to walk up and down the 2 steps constantly which I am trying to stop her doing but she forgets why as soon as I tell her, it's not possible to lock the steps off to stop her.
Thanks for reading.
Sam