Can you seal up her letterbox & put one of the lockable ones on the wall? If you keep the key then you control what she sees.
Sorry to hear about all your problems. Do you mind explaining what you mean by this? If it is fairly straight forward you can do it yourselves on line.
http://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/show...LPAs-Online-is-EASY-now&p=1176281#post1176281
To stop the constant charity requests coming through the post why not get her post redirected to you so you can keep an eye on it. She may notice it's not being delivered for a while but she will not notice it eventually.
Excellent idea to fix a locked letterbox to the outside but in addition I would go through the bank account and cancel all direct debits to charities - and remove her card and leave her cash each week - she can't spend 2/3rds of her income on scroungers if that is not what she would have done before her memory loss.
To be honest my Mum didn't need her bank card once i sorted out a bit of cash and she forgot she had ever had one and then she didn't need cash either. She wrote her own cheques with help right until the end
Can she stay with you whilst you get the POA sorted out?
It's wrong, very very wrong.
Thinking about it, how often do we read on TP of people with dementia losings hundreds, sometimes thousands of pounds to these scammers, and sadly, also to charities.
And let's face it, the membership of TP who post about it are a mere fraction of the problem.
There needs to be a differentiation between what someone did before dementia (say £200 pa to charities) and what they are doing since diagnosis. This grey area of so-called 'capacity' is allowing theft on a huge scale, stealing from the vulnerable, and causing untold worry to their families.
The stories on here say it all -- people with dementia may agree to something one day, but bitterly
regret it and feel afraid of what they've done the next day. And are unable to deal with the problem, or stop it happening again.
It is awful.
I hope you can eventually resolve all this, JayGun, and I sympathise with you and your OH over the stress it has caused you all.