I've not posted on here for a while simply because I'm starting to deal with the other problems. My mil is 58 and has dementia and she's getting worse. She's still ok to live on her own and I know it's not going to get any better. My husband is incredibly depressed and won't talk about it. I am constantly running to his mums attention as he wont. He said what's the point in doing anything with her as she'll be dead soon. He also is staring to take it out on me by being distant. He said that I'm cold and heartless and I don't care about him. I'm quite pragmatic and objective about things. He has not had many people in his life die or get ill and have had quite a few so quite used to grabbing the moment while I can while he dwells and ponders. He said everyone is dying (just lost his boss at work too). I have a strong family connection and he doesn't. He said he envies my relationship with my dad, brother and aunts and uncles. I don't know what to do as I feel powerless I could cry.